Bedtimes - toddlers In beds

My little one is in a bed now, has been for 4 weeks. Since transitioning she done really well but with a cot we could put her in fully awake leave the room and she would go to bed fine! Now she can get up and scream at the stair gate for us. We literally have to stay in the room until she’s asleep! I know it isn’t end of world & my friends having to do the same!
Does anyone let their little one scream to sleep or you all in same situation?

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If you don't mind me asking, what was the reasoning for putting her in a bed vs staying in her cot?

One of us stays with our boy until he falls asleep x

We have always stayed with them until asleep.. they won't stay little for long, enjoy the cuddles and comfort them when they need it 😊

We had to gradually get back to leaving the room. We did what you did and then when he moved to a bed would get up and mess about, so we stayed sat next to the bed for a week or so. He got no communication from us, unless he was crying (difference between moaning and crying) then moved to the middle of the room, then the door, then just outside the door. This lasted around a month I think. If he had a difficult settling one evening close to changing. I just added an extra day to the step. Now he’s generally fine to be left to chat himself to sleep. I think it’s important that they can settle themselves but not be left to cry/scream to sleep as they should feel safe and secure at all times.
Maybe try the gradual approach

I’ve always stayed with my wee boy until he falls asleep. I don’t mind it and it (usually) makes for a nice, calm bedtime x

she climbed out🫠 she’s a little fearless one! She climbed out and we knew then we couldn’t keep her in

oh this is really good I might try this! It’s so much longer isn’t it😮‍💨 not easy when your other half doesn’t get home till late or works away I feel I end up having dinner so much later! But thank you I’ll be trying this, she’s a little pickle she enarff screams the house down🤣 xx

Ours climbed out too, not worth the risk of injury. He has gotten on so well with his bed, and actually sleeps better in my opinion.
Start slowly and work up like I explained. It’s been amazing for us, there are sometimes when he’s more clingy than others or if he’s poorly we just go back to sitting near the bed for a few nights and start again. Good luck!

Keep persevering but putting her down, settling her and leaving the room whilst she is awake. My son went through a stage of this for a few weeks

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