Feeling very frustrated

My boyfriend complains every day about our 1 year old sleeping in the bed with us . I’ve tried every method for getting her in her crib or pack and play and nothing works. I’m so tired of him saying it’s my fault she doesn’t sleep on her own or she doesn’t sleep in her own bed . He makes me question my parenting all the time , he makes me feel like everything I do is wrong . I’m tired of fighting with him every day over it I need help !

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you say you’ve tried but has he tried so he can see how hard it really is? we’ve just switched my little girl to a toddler bed and it’s been a nightmare she’s constantly getting out and back in again and it’s soo frustrating!

It’s not your fault.. babies like to be next to their mum.. and that’s normal..

On one hand I can see where he is coming from as I wouldn’t like having a 1 year old in bed with me, but on the other hand he shouldn’t be making you feel bad about it.

How do you feel? Are you still happy with your little one sharing the bed or are you ready for her to move out as well?

If you are both ready for her to move out then he needs to work on it as much as you do. You are both parents and he needs to take some responsibility too. Maybe he needs to question his own parenting?

it’s really not that easy when my baby is screaming momma over and over again it breaks my heart cause I know she wants me . Children who are coddled just having loving parents that want to reassure them that they are always there .

where did you get the toddler bed from ? I was thinking maybe my daughter would probably sleep better in a toddler bed cause she hates her crib

@Nae you're doing great. Ignore @Rose she seems like a vile person who uses "brutal honesty" as a scapegoat for detestable behavior

We're primates. Its natural for babies to want to be with their parents. It's instinctual, and while some parents would rather have a child in their own space, others don't.

If you really, REALLY want your daughter to sleep away from you then you might need to workshop some options. But if you're happy cosleeping, and you're husband's not, I'd consider going to your daughters room to sleep with her.

My husband originally didn't want to cosleep. I spent one night in my daughter's room and he told me he didn't want to sleep alone and we should come back.

If husbands don't want to sleep alone, how do we think a little baby feels?

if you have any children I feel bad for them cause just WOW !

your completely right ! Thank you for the reassurance I really appreciate it . I’m going to try that method thank you .

@Rose ugly people say ugly things. Go be ugly elsewhere babe. Maybe somewhere your talents are appreciated.... like hell ;)

Ignore her nastiness that’s why she can’t even post a real picture of herself 🤣 Insecurity bleeds through in different ways. You are doing great! I’m sorry your partner has so much to say it is definitely not that easy!!

Lol I’d tell him to do the bedtime routine then and the nightly wakes . If LO sleeping in your bed works for you then he can take the sofa if he has a problem with it or he can solve the problem himself. 🙄 xx ❤️

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