Sex and Relationships with Railey Molinario

Relationship woes

So myself and sons dad took a break 3 months ago he moved out the home and back into his mums, he says we’re taking space but are still together working on our issues. Due to him not having a car we don’t see each other during the week only at weekends. Although I enjoy my space during the week it is getting to a point were I’m confused as to how he wants to proceed and if he wants to move back in. I am ready to take things seriously marriage etc but I think he is really enjoying living at his mums and although they argue from time to time he pays no rent and no bills and she pretty much does everything for him. At first he said we’re taking a break to get back on track now we are back on track I think he is enjoying that life way too much. He says he wants to move back but when it comes round to it there is no action. It was his birthday and Instead of spending time with me he didn’t and spent the time with his friends and daughter. I don’t get if he is saying he wants to move back in with me seriously or just saying what he thinks I want to hear.

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I'd just talk to him straight he seems to be enjoying the single life way too much and just stringing you along if he was serious about moving back in then it would be done but atm he is living rent and bill free having everything done for him and then gets you on the weekends, that's perfect for him but to me it just seems like he is stringing you along and nit giving any proper direction of where this is going I would honestly sit down with him and talk it out once and for all and find out what you both want and go from there, sorry this is probably not much help I really hope you get things sorted 🤗

This is why it is unhealthy to live separately and have these 'breaks' we keep hearing about. You don't want your partner getting "used" to the previous life they had before your relationship.
And how is he going to be ready to marriage and taking it seriously if he isn't willing to travel to see you for a whole week just due to not having a car?
I'd definitely rethink my relationship and whether is worth waiting after him.

This was a conversation that has come up previously , I made it very clear that if we were going to have a family then we live together as a family as at the end of the day when you create a child you do not do it alone.

I don't do breaks! It's either your with me or your not , who's got time to waste ? If a man is not serious then why waste my time.

I would be straight up , say it how it is.

Totally agree!!

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Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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How would you react?