Pt 2 to the going to the cider mill with/without my bf poll (text convo in comments)

So I made a poll saying me and my bf got into an argument last night, I'm not sure why he's mad at me its stupid. But today we are going to a cider mill with my whole family and we talked about it last weekend. I wasn't sure what to do so I made a poll asking if I should go without him, ask if he wants to go, or stay home and some people had said ask if he wants to go as an olive branch but still go if he doesn't want to. Anyways this is the text convo we had. Honestly I just feel really hurt.. I don't even know what I did last night... It feels like all I do is fuck up... I can't do anything right... I feel hopeless I feel like the world would be better without me...

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He’s being intentionally obtuse. Saying idk what you’re tLking about and getting mad when you explain?? He also isn’t even saying whether he wants to go just “what are you talking about” ??? Nah it’s not sitting right. I’ve seen your posts including the one about the TV volume he’s pushing you away. I’m sorry you feel like the world would be better offf but I bet your child wouldn’t feel that way. You should stay around for them to stick up for them and for yourself. Go have fun with your family it sounds like a great time if you can try and forget this drama for a bit

What's hos problem, he's treating you like crap and your being sweet. You deserve someone who will be sweet back!

it's funny cause tonight he told me I was gaslighting him and he told me to look up the definition and I did and everything excluding 1 was everything I felt he did to me.

I wish I knew I just want to love this man but he is pushing me away 🫠

Sounds like a narcissist. I know cause I've been with one and I used to get messages like that

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