Anyone else? Not my mil but my actual partner

Anyone else find it easier to just say ‘okay’.

Not even to my girl cause she’s fine, she’s 2. She don’t know what she wants.

However when it comes to my partner (her dad) it’s so much easier to just say okay rather than argue with him.

In the middle of an argument and I’m like okay. Because I just can’t be asked with it.

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Yeah I understand. Sometimes I'm just so burnt out at the end of the day and I have no energy left to argue. But I feel like when I just say okay, I keep my resentments bottled up inside and one day I explode like a pressure cooker...

Yea I found myself doing this a lot. Now that it’s been sometime of that happening I’ve noticed when I look back at these situations the fact is there are somethings they can’t understand, and unless we find a way to articulate it, it’s not always fair to expect them to understand.it’s a lot easier to discuss after plenty of time. Obviously the situations aren’t always so simple but for example I used to BOIL when my baby was younger and my husband would make comments kind of hinting for attention or wanting to be cared for a bit. And in his perspective he was doing SO MUCH more than his regular role, which is true. But I was still extremely overwhelmed and he just didn’t see it at the time because he was too. So literally months later we talked about it and the reality is, that in situations where both parties mean best, but they *just don’t get it* that “okay” might just be saving families. Been looking into that book “how to not hate your husband after kids” I’ve heard great things

I’ve read that book and I did enjoy it. I felt it was definitely written from a place of privilege and I found myself resenting the writer a bit by the end of it because she and her husband went to a lot of expensive therapy and her husband was on board for making changes.

I found myself wishing that my husband would read the book and feeling like we needed couples counseling.

in our community

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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How would you react?