Advice - no judgement please

Hi, I live with my husband and children, youngest is 6 months old. We live with my husbands parents in their house. My issue is they have a huge rat problem in the house 😭😭 my in-laws don’t seem to take it very seriously. They still leave food laying about in the kitchen and aren’t the cleanest of people. My husband has called pest control but we are still having these issues. It’s been happening since we got married! I’ve tried so many things to try and get rid of the rats myself but it’s not working. I can’t sleep at night hearing them in the bedroom and my children’s things even have droppings on them! 😄 I dread when my baby starts crawling because of the droppings. I’m really fed up of this now. Anybody got any advice? My husband has spoken to his parents so many times about it.
I’m so embarrassed by this but it’s really causing me so much anxiety….. sounds dramatic I know.

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Can’t you call pest control yourself and have them sort it. I don’t know what else to suggest other than you having to clean up after them seen as they’re not doing it themselves. Maybe just put your babies stuff away yourself. When the baby starts crawling maybe you’ll have to put a mat down or soemthing x

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So I got my husband to ring them again and they came to the house. They said we need to block any gaps in the house. My FIL has tried that but obviously we’ve still go the issue. Yeah I’m constantly cleaning up the droppings and hoovering. I just think it’s disgusting tbh and I hate seeing the droppings on my baby’s things. My daughter comes in our room at night crying saying she can hear them in her room… it’s awful. I know there’s not much you can suggest but feel like I just needed to vent! Lol x

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Vent away lol. It’s just soemthing beyond your control. Hopefully they’ll piss of some place else. Xx. Have you tried notifying the local council, maybe it’s an area thing not just your home.

It might just be a bigger problem.

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do you have a cat in the house ?if not cat is the best solution for that and of course reseal everything and any lose food should b in jars and tight containers. I hope this helps you

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Oh no I feel for you! One suggestion is getting under door draft excluders for your bedrooms, so no mice/rats can get through the gaps under the door once the door is closed, and then also using polyfilla or something similar to seal up any holes in your bedrooms. And also you can get these little plug in things I don’t know what they’re called but you’ll find them when you google general pest control things, you plug them into the wall and they emit a sound only rats/mice can hear supposedly and it repels them.

I’d try and put these things in place throughout the house but if you’re not able to then at the very least in the bedrooms. A good pest control company should actually seal up holes themselves as opposed to just telling you to do it yourselves. And if there’s any grates with big holes over heating vents outside the house they should cover that with chicken wire or something similar to prevent the rats having an entrance point into the house.
Good luck!

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thank you so much for your reply hun. Very helpful x

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No problem at all really glad it helps! Just another suggestion that came to mind is where possible keeping all the kids things that are out in those clear storage containers that can be put under the bed or wherever really. Best of luck again!

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We had this issue with a property we were renting and these were the steps we took because pest control were useless!

1. Check bathrooms and kitchens as these are most likely the places they try to enter.
2. Pull out all large appliances (fridge, cooker, washing machine) and check for gaps and seal (wire wool & silicone)
3. Check around sinks, toilet and seal all gaps
3. Check cupboards & any built in closets/cabinets & seal any gaps. Mice/rats can fit through tiny holes so you have to make sure everywhere is sealed otherwise they will stay!
4. If your kitchen cabinets have a toe kick underneath make sure to seal that too.
5. Use sticky pads to catch them, they like chocolate
6. Keep everything off the floor and clean it well
7. Check outside the property to make sure they are not getting in that way
8. Check for any holes around outlet plugs, make sure to only use silicone in these areas.

Inshallah you manage to seal the property off, I know how stressful it can be living with mice

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That’s not dramatic,, I’d be moving out lol

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Yh it’s actually got worse since I made this post 😫

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We had a similar problem at my mums, my mum is the cleanest person ever but the problem was from the outside manhole. When we had an extension it wasn’t covered properly so they were finding a way to come in through there and they were the size of a small kitten. In the end we had to remove the flooring and have everything sealed and that solved the problem. Hope it sorted for you too as I can’t imagine living in such conditions with young children.

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aw no! Glad the problem got sorted for your mum. We’ve had people come check the house and they aren’t getting in from outside but from neighbours houses under the floorboards (terraced house) they literally chew up the carpet and make holes to get in, it’s awful! Can’t live with it for much longer 😫 my anxiety is thru roof

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Ah that’s horrible if they coming through the floorboards so I guess the problem lies with the neighbours,, and you can’t make them do something about it. Have you looked into moving? It would be a hazard when your baby is on the move as you know they tend to put everything in their mouth šŸ™ˆ

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That’s exactly what I’m worried about! The thought makes me sick! InshaAllah we will move

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