Rant: Mom Guilt!

I am just ranting because I have mad mom guilt. We are going on a long overseas trip in the next few weeks, and my LO is a runner. I am traveling by myself, so I purchased a kid leash, some extra harneses to make sure she is safe as I will have luggage and a bunch of stuff. Today, we took the train down to my brother's to practice. My LO likes trains and was excited to ride. It was hard, but we got on the train. It was all chill until we arrived at our destination. I put the kid leash on her, and she ran. I did not, and she fell so hard on her head that the poor thing puked. We iced her head and are monitoring. Luckily, my brother picked us up. The plan was to go to a really cool local park. We went, and she was fine, I was so terrified of what had happened. I kept her up all afternoon so i can monitor her action. She seemed fine most of the day. On the way home, my brother gave us a ride back. The ride back was horrible. Ways took us everywhere, and we still managed to stay parked in traffic. Long story short. I got really car sick, but she puked again. After puking she was fine again. When we got home, she demanded dinner. Then she ran around like normal. Grabbed her blank as she was obviously exhausted. I put her down, and she is sleeping, but Iam still worried for her. I hope my baby is ok. She is such a smart and vibrant soul. I would hate for that to be snuffed out. Anyway... I have horrible mom guilt and am so worried about our upcoming trip as I will have no help. On top of everything, my husband hates the kid leash. He thinks it's inhumane and just reamed into me because this happened to our baby. I understand I would have probably reacted the same way. It's our daughter, of course. we want to keep her safe, so I don't blame him for his reaction. But I only got the leash for her protection. Any suggestions on safety while traveling are much appreciated. I just worry that something bad will happen without the leash and the harneses on our long trip alone. But something bad happened with the leash....so yeah... She is so fast and friendly. That I worry for this trip. Please pray or meditate for us.😬

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

Sahm .. the dad role .

Hi!! I’m 2 months pp. and I really would like your opinion on this situation if you have a moment.
So I have always had a job before the baby, and my bd .. not really. But 2 weeks before he was born he scored a really good job and I was able to be a sahm. Which is what I wanted , and I’m unsure if it’s still what I want or if the situation just isn’t right.
At first he was a great help in the hospital as I had an emergency c section. I was in the hospital for about a week and for most of that time I was in bed .
But after that.. I’m lucky if he will watch the baby while I shower .and I mean that seriously.
I am the only one who changes diapers, only one who bathes , feeds or watched him in general. And of course he may be tired after work but it’s like he completely avoids any responsibility. Like he will take a hour coming home and stop by his friends house otw . He will sit down stairs for hours knowing I won’t go down there bc I’m uncomfy . So I have the baby then.
We have been out maybe 2-3 times sense I had him & he refused to push the stroller c change or anything. In fact we got to the mall and said he needed to split up and I had the baby.
I feel he only wants the baby when it’s for … attention? Like to post the baby on social media or if his family is here he will take him .

I just feel like on days he doesn’t have work the next morning he should be helping , and if he is up early before work while I’m still sleeping he should get the baby instead of scrolling on reels for 3 hours .

Honestly he has really ruined my new born phase with my son. Within the first week of us being home I had to full on switch to survival mode I would call it. He would complain if dinner wasn’t done or if the room was a mess , he would complain if the diaper caddy had no diapers which really makes no sense bc he didn’t even changed the diapers . It was just everything.
I’m just wondering if there is anything I could say to get some type of help out of him.
I tried reaching out to his mother but honestly his hole family is oblivious to his behaviour.

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Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

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Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?