Frustrated with husband

I feel I can't take it anymore he is selfish he drinks a lot like on the weekends all he wants to do is go somewhere and get drunk come back home and drink some more our baby will be 3 months next week and I keep telling him we are parents now we need to find activities to do with her and that she enjoys its pointless he doesn't care about anything else. Also he is against every thing that I say or do like I tell him my plans and he trashes them like he is angry at me. He shuts down to me and don't talk things and on top he can have sex he's either tired or drunk plus he sleeps in another room because he snores. Ladies ideas what should I do keep crying every day feel so lonely

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Been here hun xx 😘 give me a message

Making good friends will be a good start to help you find yourself . About sharing your plans with him, maybe for now you might want to pursue your goals without getting any second opinion and trusting your guts 100% . Also, try making the most of every moment you get to spend with your baby because they grow so fast and time lost can’t be regained. I hope things turn out superb for you

Is he an alcoholic? Like he can't stop drinking? I am an addict and this kind of sounds like addict behavior.... I would seriously think about that and IF he is then you need to decide on whether the relationship is worth the fight you will have to put up (and him too). Cause some people just can't do it ya know? And that's ok... only you know what you can handle.

@Chasidy yes he is he told me he had issues with ex girlfriend regarding his drinking and that they went to a couple AA's meetings AND he made it clear he is never going back to any of those like wft he threw away his booze today and he said he'll just quit but I know he won't and refuses to do anything about it typical men like therapy is for "bitches" his words 😩

@Ginger yesss this all sounds good I'll keep my plans to myself and start making friends here which is hard with baby I can't go back to training yet but I'll join the YMC as soon as I can

@Kat the thing is I can't work right now my work visa expired and don't have any friends or family here so he is all I've got and definitely were better here than on a shelter when he's not drinking (monday-thursday mostly) he is ok

I would try to talk to him when he is sober. Try to sound objective and mention your concerns. Ask him if it was the other way around what would he do. Tell him you want to work with him. Good luck!

Make time for you and baby just do what makes u happy invite him obviously but if he says no just do it. Xx your happiness is important

Tbh get rid and just be u and ur baby happy . X

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I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

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