Help with thoughts of not wanting to be a mom anymore…

I’ve been struggling over the past few weeks, of feeling like I’m not going to be a good mother, a wife and a home care taker in general. Please tell me what I can do to make these thoughts go away. It’s to the point of where I don’t want to be a mom anymore.

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Where are you in your pregnancy and is this your first? I've been absolutely fine through my pregnancy until I've gotten to the 3rd trimester and now I'm feeling super anxious about everything...will it ruin our relationship, will I like being a mum, what will it do to my career, what if i'm no good at it.... Could be because you get an extra surge of hormones or it could just be because it's getting closer and let's face it, going from no kids to having a kid is a huge life change...I think any normal person would freak out a little bit. Have you tried sharing your thoughts and worries with your partner or family/friends?

it is my first yes. And I haven’t really told anyone because I’m ashamed of how I feel and I don’t think anyone would really understand.

I understand, and I'm sure lots of other people on here will as well. It's a wonderful exciting time, but its also scary and confusing, so it's really important that you seek out support and know that you're not alone. I'd recommend speaking to your midwife if you don't feel comfortable talking to family or friends about it, but I can almost guarantee you they will be more understanding than you think. You're a pregnant lady at the end of the day, hormone changes and brain changes can make you feel all kinds of ways, there's no 'normal' when it comes to hormones and your midwife will have heard it all. The most important thing is that you have the support you need. The very fact that you care so much about being a good mum etc to me says you will be awesome.

I have definitely had waves of times through my pregnancy where I have freaked out about this too. I feel like partly because how many negative things people say about having kids and raising kids. I had to tell people if it’s not positive I really don’t want to hear it right now. And watch how much negative social media you are consuming too. I know it’s going to be hard but that’s not what I need to hear I need to hear all the positives right now! How exciting and fun times will be too

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