Balancing Work and Family

For those of us working full time, taking care of a baby full time & keeping up on house duties, how are you doing it all?
I have a 3 month old, I’m lucky to be able to work from home. But I feel like I have 2 full time jobs and I don’t know how to balance it all. I am struggling to work and clean and be a good mom as well as a good wife.
How are you guys doing it? Any tips?

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Girl it for sure is two full time jobs🙃🙃my daughter is 3 and I’m still trying to figure out how to balance it. Idk how your work hours are but for the very early morning I try to do house things if I feel like it and if not I spend the morning with her doing school or just having chill time. And then work until 3-5 and then I do house things like dishes/laundry and then dinner. EXHAUSTING! All day everyday and even on the weekends🫠My evenings are for me typically or for couple time but after her bedtime and such it doesn’t leave much time…it’s tiring lol and we change our routines as she grows and such but currently that’s what I’m doing.

It is 2 full-time jobs. My husband and I split chores (I do laundry and load dishwasher, he does hand washing of dishes when needed, yardwork, garbage, and errands) and we hired a cleaner to handle the big stuff like floors, dusting, windows, etc. once per month. We both work from home so I'll run loads of laundry and dishes during the day, he'll make a trip to the store to do returns or pick up our grocery order.

I have my children in nursery 3 Mornings a week to help us out. I drop them off at 7:30, come home, do a load of laundry or hoover and mop the floor and make sure things are put away (as much as I can). Then I have a quick shower and make a coffee, do my work admin and then at about 9:30-10 I chop up whatever I need for dinner and lay it out so I can just cook it quickly in the afternoon. I pick my kids up at 1pm. They fall asleep in the car and while they’re asleep I put my washing out to dry, cook dinner and finish my work so we can eat as a family at 6. Then I go to bed with the kids and my husband cleans the kitchen 🥰

Husband and I split all responsibilities that’s the only way. It is 2 full time jobs. I’ve been doing it for 14 months now and folks don’t understand how hard it’s been but I suck it up and do what I have to because people are always ready to tell me about daycare and it’s not something I want to do. We try and have systems for everything, food prep, we have a shared schedule etc.

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Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments