Moving with a toddler.

We are buying our first house tomorrow and will be moving Friday/Saturday. We will be leaving the only home my 2 year old has ever know. Does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom to make the move go as smoothly as possible for her? I’m more nervous about how she’s going to take it than I am anything else. 😩

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They adapted quite quickly at this age. My eldest was 16m when we first moved, and 2 when we moved again and I had my youngest when she was 17m so a lot of change in such a short amount of time. But she adapted better then I anticipated. Make sure she has plenty of snacks and entertainment for during the move, any stuff you'll need for her and her room to be first and easily accessible once you move. And just stick to her normal routine as much as possible to help with the transition. I brought my daughter a new book for when we moved the 2nd time, it's about moving home and how it will be okay and we read that with the lead up to the move and then after. Good luck with the move x

I don’t know if it’s an option for you, but my husband moved all of our young daughter’s stuff into the new house/ her new room before we showed our daughter the house. My husband set the room up so it looked exactly the same as her old room. My daughter was 22 months when we moved, and it was a super smooth transition for her (I say the familiarity aspect of the room looking the same was a huge plus). We just called the new house “our nice new house, with all of our toys, bed, and clothes!” There were no issues and it was a smooth move. I hope your daughter has a good experience as well :).

Thank you guys!

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Is this clever or cruel?

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We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

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Calpol

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How would you react?