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I have had a colleague who said to me “you need to lay off the food” I’m conflicted I am very upset that he said this to me and people are telling me “he’s only joking” but he is quite comfortable body shaming I am just very hurt by what was said and I don’t know what to do

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Does he know you're pregnant? Or not yet? Personally, I'd find that really rude as you need what you feel like eat and when you feel like eating in my opinion which may be different to your previous eating habits but that's because your growing a little human. Try not to let it bother you too much, I'm sure he'll have something wrong with himself! Like a small willy or extremely hairy toes idk haha 😄 but your eating habits are not his concern for sure. You keep eating to your hearts content 🥰

I wasn’t even eating I just walked into a room. However he is fully aware

I’d personally complain to hr, I’ve complained for less at work. Unless you’re close with someone, work is not the place for bants and behaviour like that. He’s probably not thought about it twice since then and you’re still upset and thinking about it. That’s just me personally, I don’t let things slide at work. But if you think you would be stressed or anxious taking that route, that’s the last thing you need, so I’d agree with the above to pay him no mind. Sad little man.

I wish people wouldn’t justify his poor behavior! I would definitely go to HR and report it. If nothing else it’ll make him think twice before making comments about you and your eating habits (which are no one’s business!)

@Jessica Oh, what the hell. Then no question about it. He's a rude man with issues. But obviously, don't do anything that will stress you out further or potentially make you feel uncomfortable, but he should be made aware of his actions x

Sheesh- that’s is 100% not ok.
It’s not ok on so many levels.
I’d leave it but just keep an eye (or ear) out moving forward .
If his “good spirited gestures” continue, I’d take it up with HR.

Ps- I think fat shaming is truly disgusting behaviour - but fat shaming a woman who is literal growing another human being is just a no no. Our bodies are changing and it’s just part of the process. Try not feel down by the comment. All you can do is be healthy for you and your baby- and the change of body will happen as it does.

in our community

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Nursery funding

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?