Que hago??

Recién me separé, viviamos con los abuelos paternos y estos son muy metidos, exagerados y chipleaban mucho a mi niña entre muuuuuuchos otros problemas con ellos y el papá, ahora que nos fuimos mi niña y yo de ahí los tres están casi muriendo por qué no ven tan seguido a mi niña, le hablan 3 veces al día, mensajes de voz y me presionan preguntando cómo cuando y donde la van a ver, yo aún estoy procesando la separación y una parte mía me dice "que bueno por pensar que podían pasar por encima mío" pero otra parte dice "no pasa nada vamos que la vean y nos regresamos, sales chance es duro...
No se que hacer... Fueron amables con nosotros pero muy muy aprovechados hostigosos, dramaticos, y fastidiosos conmigo yo sigo muy molesta y harta de todos ellos y quiero que nos dejen en paz!
Pero se que deben ver a su nieta e hija, ella debe ver a esa parte de su familia.
Todas la noches pienso como acomodar mis sentimientos y mis acciones
Ayuda algún consejo!

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Hay un ejercicio que recién aprendí y uff me ha servido un montón.

Cierra tus ojos e imagina que recoges todo el amor del universo y que estás tan llena de amor y felicidad y luego imagina a tus suegros o cualquier persona que no soportes y transmítele todo ese amor y no te quedes con nada, luego ves cómo te vuelves uno con ellos. Respiras lentamente

De ese ejercicio aprendemos 1. A salir del laberinto es decir es un círculo vicioso que nunca salimos ya que decimos no debo sentir eso pero luego recuerdas algo malo etc. y sirve para soltar
2. La importancia de perdonar no por los demás sino por ti y tu paz mental.

Adicionalmente cuando logras estar en paz con tigo logras transmitir tranquilamente tu inconformidad y manejar mejor tus emociones y transmitirla a tus hijos.

Espero te sirva mucho un abracito.

Hola! Yo se que es tener familia política problematica, mi esposo y yo vivimos al lado de ellos y mi cuñada y eso no ha Sido facil nada antes del bebé ahora creo que están llevando la fiesta en paz por el niño. Son la familia de tu hija y bueno deben verla pero es tu hija así que yo siendo tu pongo las reglas claras en cuanto a las visitas o el tiempo que estarán juntos, porq por experiencia, con personas asi sé que cuando quieren algo de uno se ponen de buenas y uno cae de tonto y les da confianza y cuando lo consiguen empiezan a abusar de nuevo y si no se aclaró bien las cosas ya vale cualquier futuro arreglo que se quiera hacer.
Ya la relación entre ustedes se terminó pero queda la de ellos con tu hija.
Espero que logres encontrar el equilibrio para que tú estés bien y con eso tú hija este bien.

Un abrazo 🤗

Hola 👋 mi consejo es usa a los abuelos a tu conveniencia..haz que respeten tu espacio y si desean ver a la niña, que te ayuden entonces, ya sea económicamente o en tiempo de cuidados de tu hija, para que puedas hacer tus cosas. Si es muy pequeña, nada, prioriza a tu hija y no quiebres el vínculo totalmente..recuerda que las personas son como son y no cambian, salvo que ellos quieran cambiar por ellos mismos y que todo cae por su propio peso. Y bueno, si te separaste por algo fue y trata de no pisar el mismo palito nuevamente. Que tu relación con tu ex sea solo por tu hija y que cumple..no le permitas que te deba un peso (demanda pensión de alimentos) y lo de las visitas, regulalo a través de un tribunal de familia. Suerte y mucho ánimo. Dine

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.