Night nanny

Hi, Do you have experience with night nannies? How do you start the process to find someone with experience?

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Would you let your daughter (3, almost 4 yrs old) sleep over at your in laws house and sleep in the same room as her cousin (girl, 4 yrs) and other cousin (boy, 5yrs)?

In laws will not be sleeping in same room as the kids.

Do you get along with your in laws?

Need to blow off some steam🫢 My husband is from Albania. We had visited twice for about a month and I had had a good experience there. My MIL is visiting us now in the US, it was supposed to be 2 months visit, it’s not even close to being over yet and she wants to stay 2 more months. I couldn’t even wait for the first 2 months to be over. It’s very normal in their culture that the MIL bosses around, is opinionated about raising the children, talks a lot in Albanian and expects me to understand her, complains about everything, wants to take my toddler out without me, makes passive aggressive comments about me thinking I don’t understand her, when I’m out she calls me to know where I’m at…I’m pregnant with my second I need some peace😩😩😩 someone please come kidnap her from my house🙏🏼🤣

Help

So my boyfriends mom was watching our kid while we were taking stuff back did not ask or text either of us if she could give my daughter mashed potatoes she texted us on the way home that she gave her some she’s only 4 months old I’m kinda upset an she now been throwing up a lot idk wut to do

Help 😫😫

Okay I really need some advice/ tips and reassurance I’m not a terrible mom/ only one that experienced something like this 😭

Disclaimer: my two year old is potty training (almost fully potty trained)

Today for Easter we were over my in-laws and as I’m wrapping up food to go in the kitchen, I hear my nephew who is like 4/5 yo, scream and start laughing and my mommy senses were tingling so I instantly went into the living room, and him and the other kids ages 4-10 yelled that my daughter pulled down her pants 😫

I’m like internally freaking out at this point because it’s literally one of my worst fears especially because of my algorithm on Instagram 😫 it’s not like the kids told her to pull down her pants…I genuinely think she was confused because she’s used to just being able to pull down her pants and go potty at home, but I’m still so mortified that the kids saw her private 😫

I instantly apologized of course and explained that she is still potty training and talked to one of the moms because her daughter looked disturbed 🙃 (understandably)

My husband told me I’m overreacting but I don’t think I am 😫 it all happened literally in like 30 seconds of me stepping away and I’m so mad that my husband didn’t supervise more closely while I was packing up our to-go plates.

Am I overreacting? Has anyone else experienced something like this before? 😫

Separation Anxiety?

Last night my husband was sitting with our almost 4 month old son while I used the bathroom. All of a sudden i heard blood curdling screaming and ran out of the bathroom. My poor husband was so upset and distraught because he couldn’t get him to calm down. I picked him up and he immediately relaxed and fell asleep in my arms. Tonight, the screaming wasn’t like last night but he was fussy and yelling and we did the same process. I tried explaining to my husband not to take it personally because he feels awful as a dad. It’s interesting because it only happens at night right before bed. Is anyone else’s 4 month old experiencing this? It happens when our son is super tired so maybe he’s just fighting his sleep? First time parents over here so we hate seeing him so upset.

Don’t yall ever get this feeling?

I’m in school for Esthetics and my husband is covering my tuition and The bills in the home. I’m over here trying to find a Job atleast until my Training is over so I can help. His money is squeezing in really tight. I really feel like I can’t do anything. I remember years ago when I was making money like it was no tomorrow but then things changed. I wasn’t making as much as I used to. Now I’m Jobless and Trying to find a way back to work. I got my security license and CPR license. But I can’t work HHA or anything Medical for Personal Reasons. It’s like I’m Trapped bro. I feel like I can’t Provide for my son like I used to. I don’t feel like I’m doing enough let alone, ANYTHING! They reduced my Stamps because they are forcing me to work and it’s HARD finding a job right now, I don’t have a stable sitter, my husband is the only one working and I feel useless and helpless af. I want to make my own money. I gotta go food shopping on Tuesday but the stamps is not enough to cover the month. I can’t even go to “family” for this matter because everyone will turn the other cheek but will ask me for help and expect me to help them immediately. I can’t wait until this training is over so I can start my career so I can help provide for my family the way I want to. But then again I feel like quitting this training so things can be bought in the home the way it need to. My tuition is $11,885. He’s paying $800 a month. Let alone paying extra money to put food in the house because my benefits been cut short. Our phone bill is $300 a month and Internet is $70 a month. We also spend about $50 on Household cleaning supplies a month to every 2 weeks. Too much is going on fr. I don’t know what to do nomore. I tried EVERYTHING! Indeed is not helpful, Amazon isn’t hiring rn, I didn’t even get accepted for Target. Like what???