Calling out! Does anyone know when you stay overnight after Birth if the dad is allowed to stay on the second night or not? 👀💞

He’s allowed to stay how ever long you’re there for

Depends on hospital. My hospital only allowed to stay whilst on delivery ward

@Molly Awe never I'll have to mention that at my next midwife appointment an ask about it then 🥰

We were only allowed visitors in the ward including partner’s from 8am - 8pm. Luckily I had a night birth and they took ages getting us from the delivery room to the ward. He was born just before 12am but didn’t get to the word until 5am then they made my partner go home and to come back at 8am.

No he won't be allowed to stay in the UK

Mine was sent home after birth had to do 2 overnights with baby on my own

Mine was able to stay as long as he wanted (during induction and post delivery ) he slept on a chair and other women were on the ward (partners did the same) this was north west

I think most hospitals don’t allow partners to stay over unless you have a private room, for safeguarding reasons. You might share a room with other women otherwise, and they might not be comfortable with a strange man staying there overnight.

@Cordelia why??

@Chloe Well I'm classed as a high risk pregnancy so wouldn't I be put in my own room anyway x

That's crap man 🤦‍♀️

@Chloe Awe never ive already told him as well he's allowed to stay Ooops 🤦‍♀️😅

You're going to be on a ward with 3 other women and 3 other babies and they definitely don't want your husband there 😅

Getting a side room is for women with babies in NICU, an upsetting other reason or if they have no space on the main floor. They try and keep the side rooms free and even in a side room, you can't have your husband in the maternity ward, only for delivery suite. There are women up and about in their PJ's, they don't want men walking around and sharing the toilets.

would you wanna wake up for a feed at 2am with someone else's snoring husband beside you in a chair???

My first baby in one hospital my partner could only stay overnight if I was on delivery unit otherwise it was 8am-8pm. My second born at a different hospital then dads could stay 24hrs on ward too. They weren’t allowed to use any facilities though and could only sleep in the chair and use the tea trolley

We had our little girl last year and he had to leave after the birth due to it being after 8 and had to stick to the visiting times

@Cordelia There's no need for that this is my first time an I only asked as my mom had her own room with my little brother an she had no reason for one is all

I wasn't allowed my partner to stay after having my baby early she was 35 weeks and it was an emergency c section he was sent home x

@Louise So I basically kinda just comes down to the hospital 🏥 that your at in general really then x

I would ask your midwife but most hospitals allow partners for labour and some time after recovery and then it’s visiting hours only after that. I’m a planned section so my partner can stay with me from 7am till 9pm the day of my section and then the next day he can come for visiting hours (hoping to home 24 hours later). With my first I didn’t find it to hard the night I had on my own as the nurses are amazing and help with whatever you need. There also checking blood pressure, pain meds etc so there always popping in and out. I was on a ward with 2 other mums and there babies so no private room and tbh I wouldn’t expect that like others have said. I wouldn’t stress about the first night if you prepare yourself now it’s really not that bad. Lots of lovely 1-1 bonding time with baby and getting into the swing of feeding, changing nappies etc

I was high risk as well as I have epilepsy and was told by my midwife I needed someone with me at all times as I’m at more risk of having a seizure after birth but nope, still put in the ward with 5 other woman and my partner was sent home. Was nighttime and curtains were closed and wasn’t checked on as it was a busy night and understaffed.
Might be different at your hospital probably worth checking with them first.

@Louise Awe never I'm definitely gonna check at my next midwife appointment then 😱 x

it's a safeguarding issue, as well as just general child protection that strange men shouldn't be walking around maternity units in the middle of the night. And yes, if I'm not married to him, he's a stranger and shouldn't be near my baby.

I wouldn't want to make any of the women on my ward uncomfortable with my husband there overnight while they sleep. It's just common decency.

Did you want a strange man to sleep in the chair beside your baby? Or have to get a catheter removed with a man snoring beside you? There is a million and one reasons for visiting hours and why partners don't get to stay.

Maternity wards are safe spaces for WOMEN.

@Cordelia Will you please stop being nasty I literally only asked a Question as this is my first time

My partner was allowed to stay for my whole duration on the normal post natal ward? I was in for 7 days after birth. Not sure if because I'm high risk they let him stay, but no one questioned it 🤷🏼‍♀️

I was super happy to have my partner with me for the 7 days I had to stay in. I wouldn't have done well without him. I literally didn't notice if anyone else had their partners in because I didn't give a crap. My priorities were my partner and my baby?

@Ellie This is what I've been saying it must just be down to which hospital 🏥 your at in general and what their Rules are because buy the Sounds of things each hospital has their own different Rules and discretions x

try not to stress about it too much, he’ll be there when you’re in labour and when the babies born. If he does have to go home overnight try and get some sleep and he’s only a phone call or FaceTime away. The adrenaline makes everything feel so quick he’ll be back before you know it.
Hope it all goes well for you x

It depends on the hospital.
Liverpool womens are allowing partners to stay, (only a chair though)
Where as Chester doesn't

If you’re giving birth at Cramlington hospital he’ll be allowed to stay as they have private rooms. If it’s RVI or QE then chances are he won’t be able stay at all once you’re on the ward ☹️

@Hannah see I'm at James cook University hospital an I don't know the rules and discretions regarding to partners staying over night an things x

maybe join the Middlesbrough group on here and ask in there if you can’t wait till you see your midwife 😊

No unfortunately there not. Its so wrong though as they should be you've just had major sugery or given birth then you're expected to manage on you're first night itself it's madness, you will be on a ward with other women even if High risk the private rooms are for poorly mums/babies. When I had my lg I went in around 7pm to be induced gave birth 5am my partner could stay that time until I got moved onto the ward at about 9 luckily i was out the same evening about 5pm this time I'm dreading it as I'm so worried about being away from my 3 Yr old 😭 x

@Sammi 💖 I've just been saying to the others think it all depends on what hospital your at and what their Rules and discretions are on partners staying

@Hollie✨️ it does yes but I'm sure no uk hospitals let you're partner stay

@Sammi 💖 quite a few hospitals in the UK do let the partner stay so I've heard it just all depends on which hospital 🏥 your at an what there rules are but I'm not gonna get myself worked up about it just incase.

Every hospital is so different, where I am giving birth partners used to be able to stay over night whether you were in a private room or on the ward which is why we choose it but unfortunately since covid that rule changed and even if we paid for the private room he wouldn't be allowed to stay. However he is allowed to visit 8am till 11pm so it isn't too long between. I was quite upset about it at first and had a few tears at times but in the grand scheme of things this is just such a small snippet of our journey ❤️ xx

At my hospital partners were able to stay 24/7 😊 they had lie back chairs in all the bays & side rooms for them to sleep. I’ve also worked in other hospitals where partners can only be there for visiting hours so it differs widely. Maybe check your hospital website or ask your midwife? X

@Emily I'll definitely be asking my doctor at my next appointment lol x

all depends on hospital hun, you can ask before hand. They can stay till quite late though. I had 2 previous births one hospital allowed him to stay the other hospital didn’t, but then we were given an en-suite as baby girl was in NICU where he could stay

i am in the US. my hospital is all about letting husband stay with me. they provide a big bench and encourage us to bring blankets and pillows to make it cozy for him. i might even steal it from him or make him share, because im envisioning moving around my room a lot during labor trying different positions.