Would you keep visiting?

My MIL and SIL live together. MIL is nice we don’t always agree on everything but she tries and is respectful. SIL on the other hand is disrespectful, entitled and petty. She never straight up says anything disrespectful but it’s her attitude. I often only get a nod as a greeting and she barely talks to me. I don’t go around much anymore because I feel unwanted and uncomfortable being there especially after having my son.
Last time we went, she completely ignored me and my son (whom she’s normally super sweet to) it was clear that she took issue with something but didn’t want to talk about it like an adult. I don’t want any confrontation (I’m always nice to her and try not to take it personally) but I also feel like I should not have to let her treat me or my son this way or let my son witness her treating me this way. It’s as if she thinks she’s better than everyone else and I just have to accept her moods.
I feel bad because if I don’t come around my MIL doesn’t get to see my son and my husband is very close to his family but I won’t let my son go without me (he’s still a baby I ebf and I don’t feel like SIL should have access to him if she can’t pull herself together)
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You can try inviting over MIL and telling her she can drop by to see the baby if that's an option if not then u probably need to have a sit down with sil and let her know how you been feeling u could say something like I'm just checking in on you because when I come over I feel like you may be going through something or don't want to interact with me and I just wanted to clear the air and make sure there's nothing bothering you

Ya no, I'd have trouble just accepting her moods. Like whatever is bothering her is not my fault, not my problem. If she can't be civil and respectful to maintain the relationship, why should you? But ofc that's not how things get resolved, i think @Bella gave a really nice idea, although I'd be super mad that I have to cater to her moods to hash things out. I'd probably speak to my husband about her attitude and if she's moody that day, I'll be moody too. If she's friendly the next day, I'll be friendly too

thank you I might do that at some point when I’ve cooled down a bit

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