Hard pregnancy

Anyone else had a very hard pregnancy? I ended up with severe sciatica and had to stop working early. Which has affected my mental health. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I’m finding it tough. Anyone else in a similar situation?

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Hiya! I'm 28 weeks and suffering real bad back pain and sciatica, I've been referred to physio but they couldn't give me a time frame to when I'd be seen! I find that a hot water bottle really helps and not sitting with your legs crossed over. I've heard that a yoga ball helps too ? X

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My sciatica has been awful, been given a support belt to use at work and have got a yoga ball but use it to stretch my back not to bounce on, I’ve found using deep heat is the only thing I can use that will relax me enough. Mines just starting to go into my hips & legs, it’s awful. Just have to rest and take it easy, hope you’re okay x

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Mine was absolutely horrible with my first pregnancy. The only thing that helped was hot baths and heating pad. Although don’t do the hot bad without your other half around, I had to have his help getting out of the bathtub. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes quickly!

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Oh don’t I’m 32 weeks and now going to get fully signed off until mat leave. I’ve suffered with hyperemsis the whole way and now the pelvic pain is ridiculous I can’t walk!

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I’m the exact same. I’ve had to give up work now and I’m 30 weeks. Mental health has definitely taken a hit from it all. This is my first pregnancy. Hope you are all okay xx

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Aw I’ve tried everything. Was in triage a few weeks ago as the pain was so unbareable and I couldn’t walk. I’m 31 weeks today as was off sick until I got put on leave at 29 weeks. It just feels like the end of this pregnancy is dragging as I just sit at home alone most of the time

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Same I’ve had sciatica really bad on and off on the sick back work now I need to try last till maternity leave last day of feb but really not sure back is bad again now o been back a few days gets me down because I want to earn money before baby comes x

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This is my third and has been horrendous from start to finish , constantly sickness, sciatica, nausea, insomnia, heartburn, tiredness. I also caught covid . I feel like I've had every bad symptom possible!

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

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I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

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