Crybaby? 😅

Does anyone else’s baby cry unless they’re held? Our baby wants to be held CONSTANTLY. We have a bouncer, a lounger, a crib, a bassinet, a fancy swing with a mobile and lights and music. We’ve tried white noise, putting him down sleepy but awake, putting him down once he’s asleep- basically all the tricks the internet has to offer. It doesn’t matter- if he’s not being held, he’s mad. Is this just something that will pass in time? Has anyone else experienced this? I’m not a fan of cry it out, and the few times I’ve let him cry so I could get a chore done he hasn’t stopped, only cried harder. He’s 3 months old this week and I’m going a little crazy 😅🙃😭

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following bc my baby is the same😭

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My baby was like this and still is but she’s getting better. I just try my best to make her laugh and distract her when she’s laying down by herself so she will feel happy and better about laying down alone. It’s worked a little. Honestly I think lots of babies are clingy and it just gets better with time some quicker than others. You just have to be consistent with trying to soothe your baby while they’re laying down by themselves and eventually they will start to self soothe

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With that smile he knows exactly what he’s doing mama 😩😂!! He’s the cutest! How does he do when you put him in a baby carrier ?

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he tolerates baby wearing! But not his car seat 😅

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Talk to you baby constantly tell them what’s going on instead of just moving explain and let them know they’re safe and continue doing it and when you put them down let them know why your leaving baby’s are new and scared of the world he doesn’t want to be away from his momma

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Try getting that sea dreamer soother toy for the car rides I see many moms use that , I haven’t tried it in the car with my baby but she likes when I use it during tummy time sometimes!

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Baby doesn’t know what’s going on everything is big and bright and they can see that well so imagine looking at a empty blue sky and not knowing what will happen cause everything is blank it would cause anxiety especially if you still learning your surroundings

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Hi Kylee. My baby was, and he still is like that. Now it is 4 months old, and he is a bit better. I am trying to talk to him a lot, make him laugh, and I am playing music to him. He likes a lot the "Happy Song" -Imogen, and once he starts crying, with this song on, he stops. It gets better by time. Just need to figure out what works for your baby.

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My baby is like this for naps. He’s fine playing independently but once it’s nap time he prefers contact naps. If I try to lay him in the bassinet or the crib he cries instantly or will wake crying within 15-30 min. The only way to get his full nap is if he naps on me or sometimes in his swing. He was gifted a bedtime soother that you attach to the crib we are hoping that will help him.

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I do have to do most of the time a contact nap for the last nap and the later it gets the more he wants to just sit up with us. But he was hard to put down for bedtime would cry unless he fell asleep in my arms nursing and I would fall asleep for about 30 mins then I would wake up and set him in the bassinet… now at 14 weeks he eats falls asleep and I’m able to put him right down.

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Walk him around outside in the pram/stroller so he has good experiences with it then her start lasting longer but my bit at home in it, best time is after baby awakes up and is feed and nice and happy. When you put him in there just be with him and play with him while he’s there, get him to smile. If your doing something like cleaning the dishes, face the pram towards you so he can see, interact with him by talking while doing the dishes. The more you you let baby know your right there then they’ll get more comfortable with the idea of being next too.

Another option is a carrier, they’re the best in the younger months! Hands are free and they still with you, also good when you go food shopping and you have a trollery/cart.

My baby is now 4 and a half months, I put her in the pram when I’m cooking or cleaning and I have a dummy with her incase she needs it now she’s teething, a toy hooked onto the pram and she facing me :)

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It gets easier with time

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I have also seen this thing:
9 months in
9 months on
9 months near

Made me think time is short, if my baby needs some comfort and wants to be held. I’ll be there, these moments go by so fast 🥺 In no time there grown up and don’t want hugs anymore so get as much as you can

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Yes! My son is 11 weeks and is straight up angry if he is not held! I have all the things you listed yet he is only peaceful in my arms!

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