Anyone else resent their partners especially after baby?

My lovely if he’s saying things like that to you it’s emotional abuse and you’re at increased risk for physical abuse. You need to think about yours and your child’s safety…

yea there are times things have gotten pretty bad. Tipping towards physical. But it’s hard to leave…

Oh lovely I’m so sorry… it’s probably one of the hardest things to do especially with a child… I got out of a physically abusive relationship when I was 19 but lived with the abuse for over a year. But you can’t change him. And if it’s getting physical you put yourself at risk every day you are there.

What the , I’m sorry love but “he’s not a bad man “ is definetly out the window, any man who would say that to his own wife has mental health problems and is NOT a good man. He sounds like another child and you need to walk out of that save yourself now while it’s not too late these type of men can end up being dangerous to you and your LO

Im, by no means, trying to defend him. His behaviors and words are not acceptable. Period. However, since you want to stay and improve the situation, I wonder if it would help trying to understand what he might be going through. I mean we are going through A LOT, but it’s also important we bring our partners along the way and some need more nudge than others.
We know not everyone is good at expressing their feelings, especially some men. So maybe try opening up a safe space to talk about the feelings.

From here it’s just my assumption, but based on what you shared, he might be feeling “resentful” and “scare”. It’s a lot of responsibility to take care of a child. A lot of time and money will go to the little guy that he was not ready for. It can feel scary. He would be even fearful he’s responsible for all the years to come.

What’s hopeful is that you two can be scary together! Let him know he’s not alone. You two are a team. You will support him along the way to be a good father!

Respectfully I don’t personally care what he’s going through. A good man would never become verbally and borderline physically abusive to the mother of his child. There’s no excuse and men like this don’t change. They just get more dangerous

I feel that women who get used to this type of treatment, see it as somewhat normal. As someone who is married to a man who wouldn’t even raise his voice to me, I can tell you what you are living with is emotional abuse. I have been in worse relationships and look back and think about how crazy I was to stay. You deserve better.

That's horrible! I'm sorry for you hun. If he is saying things like that I don't blame you for resenting him. It's definitely not normal and it's not acceptable. You deserve respect.

Omg!! Saying he wishes you would die kinda makes him a bad guy imo 😶 that's so messed up!

If you aren’t finding the ability to leave for yourself. Think about what his behavior is teaching your son or daughter subconsciously. Sometimes it’s easier to leave if we are doing it for someone else.

@Khyia you are so right, 100% what I'm going thru right now

No excuse for that, get out of there. If it's that bad with you, think of how your child will feel being told those things or worse. I know it's not easy but there are resources if needed. I've been in this situation, thankfully I got out before marriage or a child, but words turn into blows very fast, I can tell you that. Sorry you're going through this. Please reach out to family and friends and get recordings of him if you can. You never know

You deserve better 💔

I hope you find the courage and strength to do what’s best for you ❤️