Ayudaaa

Hola chicas quería desahogarme un poco.
Hace unas semanas tuve a mi bebé por cesárea, el proceso ha Sido complicado para mi pareja y yo. Hemos tenido problemas y discusiones más el estrés. Hoy discutimos y ambos nos agredimos, no sé que hacer me siento muy triste y sola.
Ya no siento lo mismo por el, ya no es el mismo hombre del que me enamore. Y creo que no merezco que me trate así 😔

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Hola, te entiendo mucho. Yo viví una situación similar cuando nació mi bebé, se que las expectativas que se tienen de una familia se caen, pero lo mejor que puedes hacer es ir a terapia juntos. Creo q las cosas se ponen peor al sentir que no se puede con todo y que los primeros meses del bebé trae cambios muy duros en la rutina y relación. Si ya la cosa se agrava en términos de violencia es muy importante evaluar lo qué pasa, para que las cosas no sigan escalando. Yo tuve depresión posparto y fue muy duro comprender lo que sucedía. Te envío un abrazo fuerte.

Hola nna te entiendo pero mira nadie esta preparado para ser padres y micjas veces los hombres no entienden el proceso de adaptación que está viviendo nuestro cuerpo no entienden el posparto no entienden que nosotras nos estamos adaptando a un cuerpo que estamos viviendo cambios y que tenemos una personita que estamos aprendiendo a estar con ella para ellos es muy fácil porque ellos agarran y se van y se salen con amigos y se salen a otros lados cuando ellos quieran sin necesidad de tener una responsabilidad porque se van solos y nos dejan a nosotras con los niños cuando ya no debería de ser haci puesto k ya no están solos y si decidieron formar una familia 👪 ya no pueden andar saliendo con amigos almenos hasta k tu bbe ya tenga 1 año hacelo saber a tu pareja ! Y que entienda y si no amiga si ya hubo golpes k será después!

Deben buscar ayuda profesional ojalá ambos puedan y quieran hacerlo por BIEN primero de ustedes como pareja y después de su bebé, y si no TAMBIÉN tomar la terapia les hará ver si realmente seguir con la relación o no,,, al final siempre que se a por bien de los 3 y tranquila el cambio hormonal es una bomba Emocional para nosotras te comprendo mucho ya lo pasé con mi primer hijo y fue horrible, pero todo tiene solución con calma y la mente en frío

Yo pase por la misma situación con mi esposo, llego un punto en el que las discusiones pasaron a agresión física de ambas partes; decidimos ir juntos a terapia y poco a poco fuimos sanando y perdonando. Ni el ni tu son los mismos que cuando se enamoraron, es más, ni son los mismos que ayer o hace un rato.
Se trata de crecer juntos y permitir que su amor evolucione.
Es difícil porque la paternidad y crianza viene a revolucionar y cambiar todas sus vidas, y hay que ir avanzando a pasos grandes!!

Vayan a terapia!! Te prometo que ayudará muchísimo ya sea para seguir juntos o en el caso, poder separarse de la mejor manera y en buenos términos.

Saludos

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