My husband facetimes his family every day?

I’ll be honest I think you should just let him FaceTime his family and show your daughter if that’s what he wants to do. Causing an argument about it all the time is just silly. You’re arguing over FaceTime. I understand you’ve had issues with his family, and deep down that’s probably the root cause of your anger. my husbands family are very similar, but why let it impact your relationship with him. If you actually encourage your husband to have a relationship with them and be open and happy about them, asking about them etc. you’ll probably find that he’ll start to see that his family have issues and problems with you for no reason and start to feel differently about them

I FaceTime my family every day to show my wee one😂 this is such a weird thing to get annoyed about- why would you be mad your husband has a bond with his family and wants your kid to do the same?

We FaceTime our families daily with our little one. I think this is normal for a lot of people.

The part that gets me is that they treated your bad, didn’t accept the marriage, come to the wedding and didn’t congratulate your pregnancy and now expect to have a relationship with your daughter. That’s where the line should have been drawn and by your husband. And I’m sorry but if they want to see the baby, they should be coming to your house and if your husband is visiting them, either you all go as a family or he goes alone. I would be having a firm conversation with your husband as he is allowing all of this to happen and not considering your feelings at all and they are being allowed to have a relationship with the baby and disregard you, that’s disrespectful. If they can’t accept you then a relationship with your daughter should be off the cards along with their daily FaceTimes too.

I believe you are not overreacting. Clearly from what his family has effectively put you both through, your husband is not showing enough support by working as a team.

If he especially has tried discussing matters with his family, and you have been involved in these matters and a positive outcome has not been achieved, then potentially he needs to cut them out of his life.

However, if your husband has not taken this action and is continuing to brush things under the carpet, I could not stay with an individual as such.

Imagine if the tables were turned what would be your husbands expectations / boundaries from your side.

Your child is caught up in the middle of the toxicity, as parents we are protective of our children. If this was happening to your child ofcourse you would like some form of resolution and for their to be team work if they were married etc, as it becomes upsetting for parents.

Try communicating & setting boundaries if you haven’t. Consider your future choices

There's nothing wrong with frequent communication, it actually will benefit your kiddo to see she has that village. Also seeing her dad connect with his parents will likely influence her staying in close contact with you and her Dad when she's an adult.

The issue of him not standing up to his family regarding respect for his family, which is you and his daughter, needs to be addressed. You're already a bit resentful and it will just build up and it could become toxic, which your daughter doesn't deserve in her life. I wish my family had a much healthier relationship when I was a kid. It impacted me negatively and now I see my own son feeling that too. We just aren't as close as I'd like, especially for his sake

Baby doesn’t go anywhere without me, they wouldn’t even dare ask, but if they did I’d tell them they can do one 🤜 you can’t expect a relationship with your grandchild if you don’t respect the mum and make an effort with her 🙄

But the FaceTiming I wouldn’t really care because I’d use it as a chance to do something for myself and relax, take a long shower, read etc.

If they’re toxic to you they’re toxic to your daughter 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t let my kids around anyone who has treated me ugly family or born

We’ve told my mother in law that his brother and sister are not allowed around my son when she has him because of how they treated me

I would tell your husband he needs to respect your wishes

Girl so does my husband. He’ll FaceTime his mom almost everyday or his brother or talks to them on the phone everyday it’s annoying af

I talk to my mom for at least an hour everyday and am always texting my dad 🤷‍♀️

I FaceTime my family everyday

i’ve always had ups and downs with my family but i still facetime them almost every day. they love my kids and they try their hardest to continue to work on their relationship with me. maybe it could be more of a positive thing to try and build up rather than resent ? i don’t mean give in fully yk? but maybe try to connect with them hash out the differences set boundaries and grow.

thank you! Evryone overlooked the major part they don't respect because her husband is condoning the bs. I dont mind FaceTime but if you want to have a bond with our child you have to come over too...notice I said too.... he can take the child there and they can come over too..

Definitely sounds like the main problem here is that they treat you so poorly. That doesn’t seem fair. Is there a reason why they’re behaving that way toward you?

That’s a lot I’d say! Sounds like he has attachment issues. And evidently doesn’t respect your feelings about them if they didn’t come to the wedding or show an interest in your unborn child.