KFC gravy to my 5 months old

My MIL gave a few spoons of KFC potato and gravy to my 5 months old baby 😩

My friends who work at KFC say that, the KFC gravy is the deep fried chicken oil mixed with gravy Powder😩😩😩
So imagine how upset I was when my baby was being fed chicken grease after all the effort I’ve put into feeding her breastmilk & veggie purée.

Like why do MIL’s feel the need to feed the baby. If Bub gets an upset stomach… that’s on me to look after her😭😭😭 also Bub will not eat anything touched by chicken until next month.

I regret choosing my partners family as my in laws 😭😭😭😭😭 I sometimes want to leave my partner although I love him so so much. I’m not strong emotionally.

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What has your partner said? I dont know why some mil’s are like this. A massive hug for you. It is incredibly frustrating and it was a stupid thing for her to feed him that at such a young age😵‍💫 i hope your LO is ok and not poorly from it. Was your mil babysitting? I wouldnt let bubs round her alone. Your partner should speak to her. It’s not OK at all x you are strong and with time you will get stronger and speak up. If you have an amazing relationship with your partner then dont let his family break you up. I hope he has your back x it is hard but with time you will know how to deal with them x

Baby will be fine.
Gravy is stock so yeah it’s basically chicken fat etc, it won’t do long term damage.

The bigger issue is your MIL doing this kind of thing, not okay at all.

😭😭 ty for responding. I felt so helpless and was shaking telling my MIL to feed her veggie pouches instead. My partner needs to speak up more but that’s another conversation for another day 😓

ty feel relieved to know it’s okay 😅😅

I can imagine what you might say about your partner needing to speak up. Does he understand this situation though? I think anyone would be fuming too about the gravy thing x

i 100% understand your frustration, simply because what mom says is what goes. if you said don’t feed baby she absolutely should not have fed baby.
but your baby will be okay, i promise 🫶🏼 they all end up eating dirt & the 2 week old cheerio they hid in a random corner anyway 😅

It's not that big of a deal, relax.

@Adrianna no they didn't but they could have and that's the worry. You may be ok with taking risks with your child but I certainly am not OK with it x x

@Adrianna I voiced my upset and got my partner to explain. So that it wasn't akward. He made out it was him that was annoyed x x

It was some potatoes with gravy! Lmao relax! No kid ever died from some potatoes with a bit of gravy 😆 oh man some people on here... when I was a baby my family members gave me whatever the hell they wanted. Boundaries are so different now a days.

I don't think you should even bring it up to them. I'm sure they aren't dumb. They had babies of their own.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thesun.co.uk/money/13522669/kfc-sick-what-goes-into-gravy/amp/

get over it? Nope 🤣🤣🤣 babies deserve the best. Not overly salted oily fast good gravy. I came here for positive support.

thankyou 🙏🏽🙏🏽

yess exactly why I was mad. Would you feed a spoonful of this deep fryer chicken leftofters to a baby 5 months old? What is wrong with these 2 people in the comments 😂😂😂 babies deserve the best.

They just like to try and appear superior, kind of like bullies. X x

I didn’t even confirm that I left my baby with her 😂😂😂 find something else to comment negatively about. You just assumed she was babysitting and I didn’t confront her.

you should probably leave the group called ‘MIL said what?!’… if all your advise is to get over it and confront your MIL

Lmfao
Wow just absolutely ridiculous.

Ew @ all the women saying it isn’t a big deal. No one feeds my baby anything without asking, including his own dad!!! It’s basic common courtesy to ask mom first! You are not exaggerating, I would have been upset also.

damn… If only I had superpowers to stop someone feeding my baby within one second.

thankyou… literally just had to ask the question in the chat to see if I’m crazy or not.

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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