Question? Sorry if not worded correctly just upset right now

So am I the assholse? So the other day I went to my mom’s for 2 days because I don’t see her a whole lot and my boyfriend thought this was a good idea. This is bc my 6 month old has been having trouble sleeping at night isn’t taking really any naps thoughout the day maybe sleeps 10-15 mins 3 times a day. Obviously this so could not give us time to try napping with her. He is also in the process of trying to find a job and has been going to interviews in the early in the morning. Even though he is doing all that some days, the days that I was gone for he had nothing to do but to sleep or just relax without our child. So as I said I thought it would be nice for at least one of us to get 2 nights of good nights sleep. We agreed that since it was a rough 2 nights at my moms house that once I came home that he would get up with our child at night or let me take a nap at some point throughout the day, so I could sleep to try and catch up on it. I came back home last night and he is refusing to do anything for our child. Will not help me feed, change, play, and put our child to sleep for naps or bedtime because his excuse is he is to tired. So now we are fighting because of all this and him going back on his word, and as much as it was nice for me to go see my mom I’m just extremely tired and mad. I just need someone to tell me that I’m not crazy for being upset.

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No you’re not crazy for being upset, he’s just lazy

You absolutely aren't crazy for being upset! If you guys had an agreement he should have honored it. I know your tired an upset right now mom but it's just a phase. You both are stressed out from lack of sleep. Best option is to have a conversation and try to get him to put himself in your shoes when you both are feeling up to it. I'm sorry your going though this but you have to have bad days to know when your having a good one! Sending love.

You have every right to be upset... girl you grew a whole human from scratch.. not to mention all the changes you had to endure with the pregnancy. Unfortunately sometimes men still don't see the issue of why we get upset from these things but that's why you have us here! Vent away!!

You have the same name as me. I've never seen that before. You're not an asshole you just need rest, and he doesn't care to help you. Means you'll be doing most of the parenting yourself. Look up ways to get your little one to sleep. Walking her in a stroller or buggy. Rocking her, making sure all her needs are met, and sometimes that's not enough. Keep going, Mama.

Are you close enough with any of his relatives that you can invite them over to help out? More so as a slap in the face to him .. don’t even tell him you asked his mom or whoever for help .. just let them show up and witness how lazy he is .. I’m sure that will ruffle some feathers .. & tell him if you don’t want them over then fucking help when I ask the first time .. otherwise that , hush..

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