Fasting

I feel so sad because I breastfeed and during pregnancy I developed low blood sugar. I’ve had a lot of issues with milk supply dropping if I go too long without food or especially water… I feel sad because my mil says she fasted when she breastfed all her kids but I’m not sure what to do 😢

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Don’t worry about what your MIL or anyone else says. You do what you can sis. I have two Ramadans to make up myself and idk if I’m gonna get through this coming Ramadan nursing.

Don't let criticism get to you. Allah understands the challenges of fasting while breastfeeding. Last year, I faced similar criticism, feeling guilty. But my husband reminded me of Allah's mercy, as mentioned in the Quran (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:184), emphasising ease in worship. This provision extends to breastfeeding women, acknowledging their needs and ensuring their well-being. My husband encouraged me to prioritise our child and ignore others' opinions. I focused on alternate forms of worship, and our baby thrived. Alhamdulillah.

Assalamu Alaikum sis please don't feel sad. Allah SWT has made it exempt for women who are pregnant/breastfeeding, sick, elderly etc, and allows us to gain the same rewards without even fasting. Rearing and looking after ones children and families are hugely regarded Subhanallah and all acts of ibadah. These are great blessings and a Mercy from our Lord. There are also many other acts of ibadah which can be done during Ramadan. If you are aware of losing milk supply then please prioritise your baby as they are completely reliant on you and until solids this will be all they have. Insha'Allah fasts can be made up later x

Like you’ve said your milk supply dips. Breastfeeding women are given a pass in Ramadan so that you can fully nurture your children. Some mother in laws love to remind others how the stuff they used to do was better and that’s how it should still be done. Honestly, don’t pull into that pressure. My milk dried up before Ramadan came up as I was also not drinking enough liquids and having good nutritious foods which stressed me out further, on top of ptsd. I was able to fast but I wished I could have prolonged my breastfeeding journey because you only get a small chance to give your babies your milk and then it’s over.

Breastmilk is far more beneficial for a baby compared to formula and its a huge blessing to be able to give this to one's baby. I lost my breastmilk after 2months due to not breastfeeding enough and had pnd and my baby had severe colic with formula. Breastfeeding is also rewarded in Islam Alhumdulillah. Forgot peer pressure and what others say. People will always compare and say things to belittle others but it does not matter.

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