Weird families…

So I’m 37, married and already have an almost three year old. Told my parents that we are pregnant again yesterday and they didn’t say a word. The only question was “when is it due”. Their tone didn’t change, they didn’t say congratulations, didn’t ask how I felt, absolutely nothing.

I’m not surprised that this was their response, it was exactly the same for the first child but I’m still upset. Does anyone else have a family that has zero reaction to big life events?

In two mins weather to say something but I know they would just lie to me anyway, so not sure it’s actually worth hurting my feelings for.

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Speak your peace but I feel like if they told you congratulations after that it would only be because you told them it made you feel bad. That’s what I would think anyway.
With our first everyone was excited but with our second my in laws just said “oh well we knew that was going to happen” like 🙈 what?? 🤣

Just don't tell them anything anymore. You can't change people, parents or not just say F it and tell them nothing or if they ask tell them the bare minimum

Well firstly congratulations mama a new adventure is about to begin!

Secondly if it makes you feel better then ask them sometimes it’s better to just get it off your chest or it’ll just eat away at you even though you think they might lie or you just accept the fact they’re just not excited and you focus on your little family who I’m sure are gonna be mega excited

Congratulations mama for another blessing in your family.
Girl I feel you my ones are exactly the same, no expression whatsoever but they love their grandson ♥️

maybe she's just worried about u being pregnant at 43 but still yeah the way they show their emotions it's hurtful but u know I learned how to deal with that with therapy so then I don't feel like shit after the announcements

First of all congratulations!!! You deserve to be happy and feel all the joy that this news brings!

I am also expecting my second baby, found out when my first was 5 months old so will have 14 months age gap.

My in laws are exactly like that, there is zero reaction to anything and everything is always met with a neutral tone. It drives me nuts. My mother in law did NOT smile at our wedding!
My own family is usually pretty intense with showing emotions but for some reason with this one the immediate reaction I got from my mom was “isn’t it too early?????”

Anyway, I was hurt from both sides but you know what, you just have to find your happiness in your own little bubble with your husband and your babies. That’s what I’m doing now and I’m way happier… they are the ones that are missing out..

@Katie agree completely. It hurts not to have the love/support you expect from certain people but we can find joy elsewhere and still be joyful ourselves

They’ll lie if I try and talk to them. They’ll say they are excited when in reality they’ll be trash talking me behind my back. We do have a good relationship but their behaviour is odd and unpleasant.

I do wonder about the neurodiverse. I barely hear anything nice from their mouths about anyone, they’re rather negative and love to slag people off. So either neurodiverse and not knowing how to act or just generally awful people.

They’ve got friends and they’re always off doing things so who knows. They wouldn’t ever call me to see how I am and they’re generally not interested in my life. They do love being grandparents though. They’ll play nicely with my son, they just won’t help with any care like changing nappies or nap time.

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