Please need your advise.. to stop my husband from calling me names

Hi everyone, honestly this has been my major problem with my husband since we got married. he is calling me names, ignoring me whenever we have to address something and/ or issue that he is supposed to be accountable for, so whenever we discuss anything and he knows that this is his mistake or fault, he doest take accountability to what he did he instead just start calling me names and ignores me while talking. I really this time want to know what should i do or tell him so he will stop calling me names!!!! i dont call him names i can get really nervous and shouting but never called him names!!! its his way to not being responsible or accountable in situations... just if you were in my situation any ideas to stop him TOTALLY from calling me names!!! ( it is an insult to me so what can be done or said to be strong enough to stop this mess!!! now we have a 3 months baby and i wont accept to be callef names infront of my son!

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Honestly, it sounds like you already know what to do. Run

I run with a 3 months old baby, i want just to do something that will make him feel what i feel when he call me names!!! last time he told me im fucking stupid idiot because his partner didnt pay his portion of taxes to IRS as everything infront of IRS under my husband name so his partner doesnt care and we have a lawyer now in the picture so I was really pissed and talking to him because his partner didnt follow the payment plan and this puts our family at risk like putting a lean on our condo, etc.. so while talking and i was really worried pissed from the whole situation and yes i was in a very bad mood he kept calling me names!

What you’re describing is abuse. Nothing anyone here can tell you will make him stop. The only thing that could possibly help is talking with a professional to get to the root of why he feels like abusing you is okay.

I'm sorry You're going through this. If you've sat down and talked to him when he was calm and explained how it makes you feel, and he doesn't care, then sadly there is nothing we can do 😔 you deserve better

so do you mean like counsling?

You need to get out of that situation it doesn’t seem like a healthy one for you and your baby. I have a two month old and got out of a verbally emotionally mentally abuse marriage

can i text you so we can chat if you do not mind!

sorry to ask he was calling you names too? :(

i feel so much insulted specially when i say my opinion or comment or discuss a situation that he supposed to be responsible for he call me names instead of taking accountability of his actions

Yes, I mean counseling, preferably couples counseling

It’s not sounding good love😕you’ll need a lot of mature communication without all the name callings or sad to say to get out that relationship.. I think what it needs is to him having a serious reality check. Sorry this is happening to you ❤️

thank you for the advice a question do you mean counsling by saying a serious reality check?

I’m sorry but nothing is going to help. Even if you made him “feel the way you do” he won’t care, it’s obvious he doesn’t or he wouldn’t do that. You need to get out if you don’t want your kids around it, you’ve already put up with it too long

i think he does this because my family not around so he knows im not going anywhere, so he didnt apologize up to now and if he does im going to tell him i wont ask you stop calling me names, because next time you do call me names im going to stop being with you!!! and i have to be serious

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