Vent Preparing to be a single mom

Each day as it gets closer to my little boy being here it gets harder and harder for me. Knowing that his dad hasn’t been around doesn’t even claim him, and wants a DNA test hurts to the core. I try keeping myself from crying but atp that’s all I could do. An ex of 6 years (not his dad) who made the decision to come back in my life made the decision to leave earlier this week. And was basically bashing me making me feel bad saying that he doesn’t have kids and I need to practice how to parent. Like I haven’t and won’t go above and beyond for my son literally will do anything for this little human that I haven’t even met yet.
The thought of being alone in the hospital also gets to me although I’m very grateful and don’t regret my little boy I sometimes wish that I didn’t go through with this pregnancy and would have just got an abortion. But also overjoyed that my little man will be here in 6 weeks or less.

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Aw it's gonna be so worth it girl, being a single mom can honestly be great. Forget men who just make you feel bad and are rude or disrespectful, just raise your baby boy to love and respect women, enjoy being a mama and live your life. Things will get better. It might be hard but it's so rewarding 🙏

thanks love I’m honestly trying just never thought things would come to this point. But hearing the words you choose to keep him breaks me down. But I know I’ll be the best mom I can

You are a strong woman because you keep the baby and faith for him! This said everything about you . Men’s in this days like to manipulate and destroy you little by little but you need to be strong … sometimes the person who love put you down but is a karma in the world and you have support from everybody! I understand you completely! And I’m here for you I know sometimes the words not working but is good to have someone next to you ! God bless youuu and the baby beautiful mommmy ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

I’m going thru something similar but I’m two months in and don’t regret it at all!! It may be hard but you got this!❤️ you’re gonna be a great mom. Feel free to reach out if you ever need someone to talk to 💕

I’ve Been There, Especially When You See The Other Familes, It’s So Hard . But You’ll Get Through It. ❤️ We’re Here For You! Shooot Call Me When You Have The Baby! We Can Chat. You’re Not Alone, Your King Will Find You & Your Prince . But Until Then, Be The Best Mama YOU Know How To Be. There’s No Manual On Motherhood💕 Send You Love Mama!

Trust me, I know that hurt. I'm sorry. It's gonna be okay in time.
My ex bd basically told me if I chose to do this I'd be on my own and I said you don't wanna be in your son's life at all if we aren't together and he said nope not really. Felt like my heart literally broke for my baby... I even wanna cry thinking about it.
Fast forward to 7 months later nd he wants to take me to court to get added to the birth certificate..
He probably was just trying to hurt you, people say mean shit and think it's okay. It's not. Good thing for us tho is hurt and anger can be turned into strength and empowerment! Being cruel to someone gets them nowhere, leave em in the dust girl 🩵

yes I had no doubt in my mind of not wanting to keep him. Even though I feel like his dad never really wanted him from the beginning because once I told him he asked what time does the place open for abortion but said he wasn’t talking about that and just had disappeared and now claims I cheated on him. And he doesn’t know if it’s his

thanks so much for the kind words it’s good to know that I’m not alone in the situation. Even sometimes talking to family and friends about it can be hard sometimes especially those friends who don’t have kids. I will def reach out to u I’ll shoot u a message. ❤️

thanks mama you got this as well we have to stay strong and uplift each other I’ll send u a message ❤️

I’m sorry you had to experience that as well. It really does hurt but I look at it like this babies know voices from inside the womb and they know who is around even in the early stages of life. It’s crazy the way men think. He did the same thing I said I didn’t want a relationship and then all the accusations started that
I was cheated not his etc etc when I just simply wanted to be left alone. I would make him prove to be added to the birth certificate. I hope the courts rule in your favor as it’s not fair to us mothers to go through everything and for dads just to be able to do what they want. Praying for you. We got this mamas. ❤️ I will reach out and message you!!!

You’re so strong and it’s gonna be worth it! I’m expecting a baby boy too and it’s the same thing the father doesn’t even claim him and wants a dna test but doesn’t wanna be at the birth or even have a conversation with me in person it’s truly upsetting but our lil boys are gonna grow up to love us with everything and they’re gonna learn to respect women and treat them the way they should be treated. And eventually you’ll find a person who treats you and your little blessing how y’all should be treated! Praying for you❤️

Exactly 💯 such a similar situation! He thought there just HAD to be smeone else too. Which of course it wasnt. Smh. I really don't know men at all and why so many of them are so similarly dumb or awful.
Yes If he wants to take me to court he can and he can pay for it all too if he wants it that bad lol not to sound mean but 🤷‍♀️
Also yes of course feel free to DM me!

I was with my ex for almost 5 years, I miscarried triplets in 2019 so we were excited when we found out I was pregnant again, 2 days after I found out I was pregnant I found out he was cheating on me with multiple women (he was also severely abusive and toxic, looking back I was silly for staying as long as I did) he threatened a DNA test and to take me to court for full custody🤣 I ended up doing my pregnancy alone (he ended up getting someone else pregnant) my son is now 1 and we’ve had no contact from his sperm donor or his side of the family and honestly it’s been amazing, it’s hard but honestly not as daunting as it may seem, I regret my baby dad not my baby, you will smash it💙 being a single mum isn’t as scary as it’s made out to be, you will do everything in your power for this little human it’s actually amazing how much women are capable of, good luck babe x

You don’t have to be at the hospital alone, if you have a close friend or sister, mom etc they can be your support person during and after the birth. You could even hire a doula! I’m sorry that men are such dicks. My bd had the audacity to ask for a dna test after he met her at 2 days old, not for him but to reassure his dad that she was his. I was like nope I don’t owe his dad anything, he should know that his son is a piece of shit and treated me poorly. Luckily I’m now in an amazing relationship with a guy who has taken my daughter and I in like family and she is starting to call him dad and gives him the biggest hugs. She hates when she has to go for her 1 weekend a month visit with her dad. She’ll say no and cry the entire time until I leave. Breaks my heart

I think you’ll be surprised how calm the environment is and probably will be a lot easier for you to give birth. Enjoy the silence and just enjoy that moment. It’s not like movies at all no screaming or any of that. Well I mean not crazy like. I didn’t even huff loud and I had my daughter and she was first in a couple pushes after being in labor for 3 days. I got the epdideral thought because I didn’t want to be dead tired from the contractions when it was time to start pushing and I’m glad I did because it was an easy peaceful delivery. So think of all that calm environment you will bring your baby into. And that’s what you want! And the nurses and doctors helped me way more than my children’s father. He was holding my leg and I eventually told him to just stop and I’ll do it because he wasn’t doing it right. So literally. You don’t need him anyway! lol 😂

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