Anyone else struggling at the moment?

My girl is having tantrums constantly at every little thing and they last for a while. It will always be from moving to one thing to another like brushing her teeth, getting into her high chair for meals or if we are leaving the house. I feel like I have tried every approach and I’m just not getting anywhere. It’s got to the point we have stopped going to groups because she has so many tantrums there its seems more traumatic for her to go than not go. It’s also really upsetting for me seeing her get so upset and I also feel judged by other mothers because I can tell they think she is just a naughty child. I’m really hoping this is just a phase. Has anyone got any suggestions of what I can do?

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I have no solutions unfortunately, but also going through the same thing. My little boy is reeeeeaaaally embracing the pushing boundaries and completely ignores me when I tell him not to do something. Just walking to nursery feels like a constant battle trying to stop him running into the road 🤦🏻‍♀️ never felt so exhausted x

Yes to all of this. I am going mad!

Have you seen the HV recently? One of the questions for us on the 2 year check was "do they have tantrums that last longer than 15 minutes" mine doesn't so I don't know what happens /they suggest if they do but might be worth asking the question?

Yes. It's not so much the tantrums - yet - but struggling to get anything done/out of the house. My little boy is super clingy and wants to be cuddled up to me and carried around all day. Don't have any solutions either I'm afraid but you're definitely not alone.

Yep. same here. I absolutely dread going anywhere with my boy these days lol. He used to sit in the buggy happily, but now just fights to get out/throws himself around when he's strapped in. But refuses to walk beside me or hold my hand when he's out of it. Me and my partner are just back from a shop, and we are both frazzled. I feel like i constantly throw snacks at him to keep him happy in a trolley or buggy. xx

Just everyday and night is horrendous nothing is enjoyable

in our community

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?