Popping by Unannounced With Visitors

So I’m sitting here while my MIL and a stranger are sat on my sofa. They dropped by unannounced AFTER I said she could come over for Sunday dinner next week. Am I right to be upset? I just wanted to have this weekend with me, hubby and baby, which would be the first weekend we’ve spent together in a very long time. Never mind the fact that whoever she’s bought around I don’t know. I’m genuinely so upset that our peace is ruined.

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Speak to your hubby. He should be the one to politely ask his mother and her friend to leave, then cancel sunday dinner next week. Why does she think bringing strangers into your home is okay and unannounced, is beyond me! You have every right to be upset and angry too, your safe place and you have a stranger just sat there, why do they even feel comfortable, its weird. Your mil needs told asap!

ADDING NOW SHES GONE: She was talking about how people were asking after our baby and how she’ll “take him” to see them. My (almost) 4mo baby is absolutely not going anywhere without me or his father present. What is happening where MILs feel so entitled to grandchildren?? Beyond fuming.

I’d be pissed

damn right. I’ve told hubby one of us needs to say something and he said he will - I absolutely don’t want her coming over next weekend but I can guarantee she will. So fed up of her disrespecting my boundaries constantly

@Zena plan something, if its nice, pack babies stuff and go out for the day. If she shows up, you aren't home. Say you made new plans since she came unannounced last weekend.

I’m petty, I wouldn’t even answer the door or the phone 😅

🤣🤣 same tbh 🤣 just ignore.

I was totally up for that but hubby phoned her after seeing her text!! There went our quiet little family weekend. I don’t know why he won’t just ignore her

I like this idea, absolutely will be doing this next weekend 👍🏽

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