Tantrums

Wow the toddler tantrums are intense and they really trigger me. It’s like I’m murdering him over the smallest thing, although it’s obviously huge to him and he’s feeling big emotions. But Jesus, emotionally draining and tiring. Anyone going through the same? I feel like my child is so much worse than others his age 😭I’m sure he’s not terribly worse but it feels that way

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Try not to over react to the situation. Keep a calm head about and what ever you do don't give in. Show him that tantrums are not going to get him what he wants.

We’ve had what feels like the worst day of tantrums so far today & I’ve had to leave the room for a bit to try reset as it triggers me.

You’re not alone 🤗

Definitely there with you!

100% with you! I find it super overstimulating! Sometime end up in brain freeze mode and having to remove myself from the room

Ur definitely not alone. When I'm out, I swear he plays up so much more and sometimes I just give up what I'm out to do and go home. X

Honestly I feel like my little boy is the totally the same. I’ve had a week of from work and his routine has been totally off so I feel like he’s testing me. Genuinely had a cry in the toilet yesterday because he was just too much. You can give them the world and you love them to the moon and back but gosh this week has been physically tiring - I feel like I need another week of to just recover from it 😐😩

Oh you are not alone. My lo throwing tantrums especially in public places. He is throwing himself to the floor he hit his had twice while doing it this week) and screaming like someone murdering him. I see others judgement in their eyes like i am a bad mom. I cried twice yesterday as i can’t take it anymore. It is mentally draining.

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Routines?

When did you start to introduce your baby’s routine? Do they just have a night routine or full day routine? Wondering when I should start this e.g naps at the same time everyday.

Any routines you have that work for you, please let me know them with timestamps. my baby is 6 weeks and just wondering when we should start them?

Does anyone else’s baby spit up breastmilk but not formula?

I’m seriously considering seeing a lactation consultant because I don’t understand why he can’t hold down breastmilk but can formula. I use soy formula since I’ve used it with my daughter and I’m thinking it might be due to not getting milk coming in for a few days so I had no choice but to give him formula, but now even if I take breaks in between feeding him breastmilk to burp or try to mix breastmilk and formula, he spits it up sooo much. I’m ready to just give him just formula because I’m worried about him not eating enough

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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Stroller

Hey,

Baby is getting slightly too heavy for his travel system now.

I was just wondering want strollers people recommended. Thank you