Am I allowed to be annoyed

My in laws are different than what I’m used to in my family. I constantly receive messages from my family asking how I am or how my baby is doing. I’m a first time mom and I’m currently 21 weeks. Not once have my in laws asked or checked up on me and baby. They only ask my husband how he is. They also think we should drop any plans we have to go see them instead of them coming to us( MIL is retired and FIL works 2 days a week) my husband and I work 5-6 days a week. I just feel annoyed at the fact that they either make everything about them and we can’t have anything to ourselves. My mom and I are extremely close so I tell her when the doctors have concerns because she calms me down and my MIL has yelled at me for telling my mom first before her.( clearly we aren’t close at all) I’m just getting aggravated and annoyed. Is it okay that I am?

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Girl you don’t owe her anything.. 😂 leave it to your husband to tell her grown annoying ass to what’s going on at appointments and shit!

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My in-laws also make everything a competition with my parents. They couldn't be more different, so of course, I treat them differently, and it's not a race. It's about loving my children and respecting me. Which my inlaws don't. You don't owe them anything, and it is not healthy for you to have a toxic relationship with them around your kids.

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