Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Second baby, but fear of ppd/ppa again

I have ppd and ppa. I am so nervous about trying to have a second kiddo because I have no idea how I am going to manage it all. My husband isn’t terribly supportive and I have felt like a single parent since my son has been born.

I want him to have a sibling, so badly, but I also want to make sure I can show up for him and be the mom I want to be too.

Idk what to feel or think about it all and am just really afraid of the intensity of postpartum again and having ppd and ppa with a second pregnancy.

Thoughts or advice welcome.

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Thought. Not advice. I think I would seek a therapist or someone to talk to that could shed some light on what caused this with my first one and see if I can resolve it and go from there. Just a thought

I went through my last 2 pregnancies with ppd and ppa get established now with a doctor to monitor you and keep track of things and prescribe stronger if you need it after birth.

Honestly, yes, u need an OBGYN & a psychiatrist (who specializes in PPA/ PPD) to be WITH U FROM DAY 1 (& u need to be honest,) ⭐️BUT 1ST—— remember it’s not JUST U FEEDING OFF YOUR SAD, negative feelings——- the KIDDOS SENSE & remember everything.
====> Your job AS A MOM is to PROTECT YOUR CHILD & PUT THEM 1ST—— before any ISSUES/ hidden/ not wanting to discuss….. U CANNOT GO ANY FURTHER W/ that.

⭐️💯💯You’re on an unhealthy path FEELING ALONE W/ a husband who isn’t terribly supportive——- DO YOURSELF, your HUSBAND, and your CHILD (& any future children you may have a HUGE FAVOR & GET INTO A HEALTHY PLACE 1ST.
=====> Tell your husband you need counseling before u get pregnant again—— if he won’t go—— u can ADOPT.

⭐️💯My ex-husband was on & off drugs—- it got to an extreme pt that I had no choice but to FILE & he did get temporarily sober—- but not for long—— AND ‼️‼️found out he’d been CHEATING DURING MY 1st pregnancy ————we never shared social media….
🤦🏼‍♀️ SHARE ALL social media accts!

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