Husband left 3 weeks after we had newborn

So we have a 16 month old and a 5 week old and he left when the little one was 3 weeks old (3 weeks ago)
I’ve found it hard meeting to give him the children as I’m so hurt and upset and today he told me I looked nice but didn’t respond to his comment then he asked did I get a new outfit and I said yes and he said again how I looked nice… this is wrecking my head.. why would you even comment on it 💔 my heart is truly broken atm and I can’t believe he done this on us 😭😭

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Did he say why he left? If he has no intentions of getting back with you I would ask him to not give compliments and just keep it civil. Just your hormones will be all over the place atm.

He said it hasn’t been working for over a year so that makes no sense to me at all! And they defo are never mind dealing with this heartbreak

If it hasn’t been working for over a year and he made no effort to communicate that to you and no effort to attempt to fix it then I think that’s just an excuse. 🙄 I would definitely tell him to not comment on your appearance and just keep it civil.

Once you have children your life does change drastically but you have to be willing to change your lifestyle after. Some people just can’t adjust but it’s not right leaving you with two small children.

I’m not buying the over a year thing as I’ve never seen any issues. This has all took me by surprise and I can’t wrap my head around it! It’s devastating to me especially with two young children 💔

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