Anyone else have an annoying/asshole of a husband?

Like I am the one that's essentially always caring for our son and the one - 2 hours he has him I end up still helping him and when I help him he is constantly criticizing how I feed, hold, wrap, dress, bathe, wipe, etc.... like, I've taken care of a baby before. Plus. I'm always the one having to rewipe our son and scrape poop off my sons butt after he changed him. And our son spits up way more when he is feeding him. And on top of that my husband said to me earlier "if you clean the bottles I'll watch him until 3am." Uhhhh before I even gave birth to our son, literally the night before, we agreed since we both work that we would switch throughout the night and on our off days the other parent would care for the baby while either of us are resting. And has any of THAT happened? No. I've been the one caring for him constantly. My husband was wonderful the first week. But has slowly been regressing back to his lazy asshole self. And yet in his eyes I'm still the only one in this marriage fucking up even as a mother. He makes me feel like shit constantly by how he says and does things. And I'm exhausted as is. I haven't slept in 3 days. Literally. And today was my ONLY off day. And I still got ZERO rest. And on his off day I let him sleep all damn day even though I really needed help. And I even tried waking him to help. Like. I'm at a loss. I knew this shit would happen. I called it. We even had an argument about this when I was 6 months pregnant, actually we had multiple arguments about this. Just based on how he was during my pregnancy I KNEW he would end up doing this. Like right now he is holding him, but that's after he criticized how I was holding him. I'm holding him upright at an angle. But then he says "you need to hold him upright and put your hand behind his neck." So I said "well if I'm doing it so wrong then you take him." Like I've been holding a lot of my frustrations inside. Like he's glad I only said that. I don't criticize him and how he does things that I'm pretty sure we aren't supposed to be doing. Like giving our son an oz of water. Which makes him spit up the milk he drank. And then sometimes it sounds like he's burping him too hard. But do I say anything? No. Why? Because if I say anything to him he blows up at me and then goes off on a tangent about other bs just to make sure I feel like shit again.

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Your a good mom and do t let him tell you any different

Yeah this is so wrong.. you shouldn't be treated this way, I feel like therapy is absolutely necessary if there's gonna be any hope at rekindling some respect and love here. And also, babe should not have any plain water until they're 6 months old. It's really bad for their kidneys 🫶🏻

@Ta'Shauna my husband does the same shit. And he'll make comments about me texting my "boyfriends" when I'm on here or even when I'm texting my mom or sister or grandma. And he is the one not showing me any attention or affection. And he's on his apps pretty sure he's on dating apps again/still. He's said the same shit to other people but no compliments for me. And when I ask him he says "they need it, you don't. We're already together" and I'm like uuuuhhhhhhh that sounds like you're trying to hookup with someone else. Like. Wtf. Like he even says my job doesn't take up any energy just cuz it's a remote job. But it's hard to take care of a baby and a dog and keep no noise in the background when I'm making calls. And my remote job gets busy and it's mentally draining. And it's physically painful too cuz of where we are staying at there's no comfortable seating or stress for me to work my shifts. And he has always got to leave from wherever it is we are staying at. I'm the one who is constantly"home." I can't

Even go out anywhere. Even if I step outside one minute he makes comments and is a complete jerk. He gets to leave. I have to stay. And he never tried to spend quality time with me. When it was just me and him when I was pregnant I would try to get him to spend more time with me and come back from work right after work versus staying out until sometimes even after 12. He would bitch at me saying I'm complaining and trying to argue and that's why he stays out. I feel trapped. Completely trapped. I feel like I'm a prisoner sometimes even. It's a horrible feeling. He's been so much worse to me than what I've said even ..... But there's just some things you can't say out loud.....

@Kylee I tried to tell him that waters not good allowed right now. And he just always says that his parents are doctors and he knows what he's doing cuz of that. Like. Uuuuhhh. Your parents being doctors have nothing to do with babies not suppose to be having any kind of water.

And he's such a a hypocrite too. Hell tell me "don't leave him in just a diaper" or "keep him swaddled all the time" or "don't sleep with him" but then he does the shit he tells me not to do. I've been a single mother to a newborn before already. I know what I'm doing. Yeah he has a 15 year old with another woman. But that doesn't mean he knows everything. Plus I'm pretty sure she was the one solely caring for him too.

Aaahhhh I feel this in my soul. And I'm just not gonna say anything more lol, too much going on. I sympathize with you and understand and if you ever wanna talk just msg me because I get it.

He either goes to therapy and works out his stuff, works it out with you, puts effort into a better system.. or it’s time for things to change in whatever ways you see fit. If you don’t want to leave him- I’d suggest maybe splitting up chores more in your favor, ask him to pay more towards the bills, and start giving yourself more time at home. Shift things to where he still has to carry the weight of household and financial responsibilities & takes on even more of it, since you are already doing it all raising your shared child

Heart goes to you for being a fighter 💞

@Monica yeah if he doesn't get therapy and fix his shit.... like yesterday... you've got some big decisions to make. This is not the example of love you want to set for your son. He'll grow up and either accept treatment like this, or treat his future partner like his dad is treating you.

Yep. My fiancé is constantly telling me I am doing EVERYTHING wrong as a mother. And then we will fight in front of our two year old. I can’t fucking stand men.

My husband works 8a-6p. But he sometimes won't come home until later or he'll sit in his car for hours in front of the house. We have talked about how we would split up everything and he just hasn't done what he said. This isn't the first time he's just been all talk and no action. I want to leave him but we are living with my mother right now and I have no where else to go and he has no where to go especially with having a big dog. Everyday we argue about something. And he says what I say out loud my mom can hear and what he says in his low tone voice no one can hear. But my mom has said that she literally only hears him. Since we've been married it's been shit. And his birth mom told me to talk to her about whatever I need. And I just can't tell her certain things. I can't tell anyone certain things he's done or said. And my son will understand not to treat women this way. I will make sure of it. No matter what he sees his father do or say, I'll make sure my son knows better. At least I will try.

Oh and my husband claims he talks to a therapist. But when? Lol. The middle of the night when I'm asleep and he's awake? Lmao. Doubtful. He won't fix his shit. He says I'm the one that needs therapy. Lmfao. I definitely don't.

If you’re already a single mom in a relationship then you might as well be one .. i know that is easier said then done sometimes but if he hasn’t changed he ain’t going to I’m telling you that now .. if this is a constant Struggle you have and nothing has changed then i promise it won’t.. there is absolutely no reason to come on here and complain about the situation because you already know he ain’t gonna change he was a ass hole before the baby and he’s still a ass now .. if you want change then you gotta make it happen otherwise complaining isn’t gonna change anything. Take action! If you’re unhappy then leave .. he don’t sound like a partner he sounds like a dictator

ALL YOU LADIES ON HERE COMPLAINING ABOUT THE SAME THING ARE ALLOWING THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR BY STAYING WITH YOUR PARTNER IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY AND NOTHING IS CHANGING THEN LEAVE ! ITS NOT GONNA CHANGE SO STOP HOLDING ONTO FALSE HOPE IF HE WAS A ASS BEFORE HES A ASS NOW STOP MAKING EXCUSES AS TO WHY U CANNOT LEAVE BECAUSE YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN YOU ARE JUST COMFORTABLE.. START TAKING ACTION .. YALL GOTTA WOMAN UP AND STAND ON BUSINESS WHY BE MISERABLE! THATS NOT HEALTHY FOR YOU OR FOR YOUR KIDS ! YALL DESERVE BETTER DO NOT THROW EVERYTHING AWAY FOR ONE SHIT MAN ! GET OUTTTTTTG

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