Holding baby too much??

My LG is 6 weeks old and I like to hold her a lot, partly because she can be quite grizzly in her moses basket if she doesn’t go down in there asleep but also because I just like cuddling her.
A few people (all men 🙃) have told me I shouldn’t hold her as much because it’ll ’spoil her’ and she’ll start rejecting sleeping in her basket or Snuzpod; is this true?? My thought is that a baby that small can’t really form habits and it’s nice for them to feel comforted?? She’s perfectly content and will sleep in most places at the moment so I can’t see a problem?

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You can’t spoil a newborn. Cuddle away. My first was held and cuddled almost constantly. When she got a bit older and needed to start being put down for naps it took us a few weeks to get her to fall asleep on her own but I don’t regret it for a second xx

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I cuddle my baby girl on and off all day as she loves being held and sleeping on me. However she also does sleep in her crib and Moses basket so being held doesn’t affect her so try not to worry. Newborns can’t be spoilt with love so do what you feel is right by you and little one.

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I think it’s a bit of an old wives tale. I don’t think it applies to newborns but after this stage I’ve known people to have problems but I also kinda believe it’s down to each babies temperament. My first always loved lying on her own (but I didn’t overly hold her bc I had my mum making the same comments you’re having and I gave in to the pressure) but even now as a toddler she will lie in bed forever if you let her so I think that’s just who she is? Im having my second baby tomorrow and I plan to give lots of cuddles even if it makes things a little tricky down the line x

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Found swaddling in celluor blanket helped to get her to sooth herself

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Cuddle your baby all day every day!! You cannot spoil a newborn at all!!

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Cuddle your baby as much as you want! They need that when they are little and if you enjoy having her in your arms then do it as much as you can because they grow up very fast. For later stages it depends on the baby and their personalities and needs and you will figure it out when time comes. In the mid time, enjoy the cuddles

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my girl likes this position so much till she is deeply asleep B4 you put her down.

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yes same with my daughter but then when I do put her down she wakes up screaming soon as she realises I’m not holding her anymore x

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cute baby please let mummy rest

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doesn’t help when I have an almost 4 year old who keeps waking her up and then she screams the house down like she’s being murdered and doesn’t settle for ages 😩 x

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Thanks so much everyone! Very reassuring to know I’m not doing anything bad or wrong. I’d never want to look back on these first few weeks and wish I’d held my newborn more!! your little girl is gorgeous 😍

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Thank you she’s suffering with colic and it’s a nightmare but wouldn’t change her for anything will be glad once it’s gone though 😩 x

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I know it is not easy but keep calm with her,she is playing jealousy because she thinks she is being replaced. She will change as time goes on

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yes she’s been fine with baby and everything she just gets really loud as toddlers do lol x

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