Husband wears old/dirty/ripped clothes on purpose

I think taking pride in your appearance is important. I also think it’s important to want to look nice for your spouse x

I can see where he’s coming from feeling acceptance how you are is important. However deliberately wearing stained/worn clothes is going abit far😅 also if my partner or I was wearing something the other didn’t like/thought wasn’t appropriate it should be an easy conversation to fix ie. if he wasn’t wearing a shirt or if i was wearing a short dress 🙃

It sounds like he doesn't care to live up to societal expectations. It's his body, his clothing, and his choice. How would you feel if he came to you and told you what he felt you should/ should not wear? It's his way of expressing himself. I understand you feeling a level of discomfort based on what other people will think. However, maybe go deeper and think to yourself, "Does this truly matter in the grand scheme of things?" Or, would it be more beneficial to let it go?

Around your own home, it's fine, wear whatever and be comfortable. It's not the end of the world that he wore just dirty shorts and I dare say anyone barely noticed. However, it's not ok to go out for someone else's special event dressed in dirty clothes. How disrespectful.

This business about people should only care about what's on the inside not the outside only works in a Disney family movie. It's a great and noble ideal, however, reality doesn't work like that specially if you are unclean.

Clean teeth, combed hair, clean underpants, clean shorts, clean shirt and deodorant should be worn as a bare minimum when attending another person's event.