Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

First night alone

My husband is going camping and this will be my first night alone without him. My medicine has fully kicked in but it is my hell week before my period. I am anxious and I’m not sure what to expect without him here. How did you deal with one night without your husband?

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It won’t be so bad! When I’m alone & tired I break down time by approximated nap times! And if the night ends up being rough to get through alone, im always around (especially at night) more than willing to chat!

he did invite me I didn’t want to go

thank you so much!

of course! My man worked mainly night shifts in the early postpartum days so I’ve likely lived whatever you end up experiencing & will definitely have reassurances for ya if not advice!

I’ve never been alone over night yet, I wanted to see how it would go first. Me and him are connected to the hip we never spend nights away from each other but we both thought it would be good to try to have me figure it out. He wanted me to go but I told him I didn’t want to, I’m not really a camping person and now that we have a 9 month old I wanted to wait a little bit till she’s older

uh i don’t think you should listen to some weird unsolicited advice to cheat over this.

but my fiance had to go on a trip out of state for a week to train for a new company. honestly it was bad for the first 2-3 nights alone but i kinda got used to it and me and my son got into a pretty good routine. just focus on doing things that make you happy and maybe pick up a new book, game, or craft that you can start to get your mind off of it

I thought that was weird too that she said that!! But it wasn’t to bad but it definitely was weird, we are always with each other so being away from him was weird

yea i definitely dont really understand that mindset. but thats good it wasnt too bad! we’re the same way so i totally get how you feel

i deleted my comment due to sensitivity, i didnt know a joke could piss so many people off 🤷🏽‍♀️

I think it was just not a joke that was gonna land amongst an actively anxious mom who’s about to be alone for the first time at night! I dunno if anyone was genuinely mad or if they were more like just having red flags thrown up

nah people was definitely mad, i deleted my comment because i will not tolerate bitches coming at me calling me names and a bad mom over a comment, i didnt realize until AFTER i got dms that it was the mental disorder group, im in multiple groups and some of them we use dark humor. what im not is a cheater or a bully so bitches can stop where they at tbh.

ooo I hadn’t seen anybody super up in arms in the comments so that’s why I said ‘I dunno if’ sorry any one who was screaming about mental health being important ended up belittling you over a moment of miscommunication. 🫶🏼 that shit ain’t right

i was on my "for you" section if i made you feel some type dm me i didnt mean to cause you more anxiety, i will apologize to you personally because it is your post and i didnt read what group this was posted in. so i humbly apologize to you specifically.

Feel free to message me 😊 I did nights with both my kiddos and still do nights fully alone 5 nights a week because my husband works nights.

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do