Coparenting as roommates

For the past 5 years we've been living in a roommate phase. He went on a trip for his uncle's wedding, I wouldn't have gone because I'm working but he didn't even invite me.

When he came back he was quiet and only interacted with our son. Finally after almost 2 weeks of 2 word conversations I told him we needed to talk. I basically told him how disrespected I've felt, he talked about how he couldn't and wouldn't live in a sexless marriage. Long storey short we've agreed to stay living together as roommates and coparents because neither one wants to lose the house.

I don't know if I'm still in love with him but I know I can't live without feeling wanted. I want a partner not a roommate.

How do you even begin again at 38?

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I completely understand how you feel. I am in the same situation. I don't work so have no way of leaving my husband and don't know how I would start over anyway. I am here if you need to talk. I turn 40 next week on the 30th.

@Laura ty I Don't even know if therapy would have helped but I guess we'll never know. We've been living completely different lives.

I wanted to grow old with this person.

I know the feeling. We tried therapy and went to a few sessions but he isn't big about talking about his feelings and it also brought up a bunch of questions to me about why we even got married in the first place.

I can't imagine. I left my marriage of 15 yrs. I stayed in the other bedroom for about a month. He finally left but my kids are struggling so bad, I asked him to move back in as roommates.
I was 45 when he left more than 9 months ago.

I'm 35 so is my baby daddy. We been together for 9 years but 3 years ago he decided he didn't want to be with me anymore but we still live together and co-parent with our 4 kids. But we kinda have a weird relationship. Some does we together and others we aren't. Almost like an open relationship. Him and I both work but financially wise I can't afford a place on my own. I've tried dating other ppl but I don't want anyone else but my baby daddy 🤷.

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