Advice or maybe just rant?

I do want advice but I’m also pretty sure I’m about to go on a rant so fair warning this may be long. 😂 I work a full time corporate job and I am so freaking tired of being the breadwinner AND pretty much sole caregiver (outside of daycare) 😩 my husband used to be such an amazing dad and he’s not a BAD dad now but he “lets” me do like 90% of EVERYTHING. He does also work (also a white collar job, I just make a lot more than him) but I mean he comes home from work and immediately turns on his NCAA football game and/or sits on the couch on his sports app ALL THE FREAKING TIME. When I asked him to stop ignoring the two of us last week he said “I just got home from work, I need time to decompress” (when in the hell do I get to decompress?! I work 40-45 hours a week, too!) Meanwhile when I’m cooking supper our 3.5 year old daughter (that he helped create!!) “helps” me so I’m doing the cooking AND childcare. He does occasionally change a diaper when I have my hands full and ask (I shouldn’t have to ask!) but he does not get off the couch much less get on the floor to play with her or play hide and seek or tag etc (which I do pretty much constantly from 5 til bedtime), so she prefers me by a long shot, even going as far to say things like “no daddy! Only layna mommy!” And “daddy go away, go play kicky-ball” when he finally tried to help me today 😳 It really hurt his feelings so I’m hoping he will want to change; I think this is the best time to talk to him about playing with her more and doing more of the childcare but I don’t even know how to tell him what to do. Right now my plan is “do you see what I do all weekend long and from 5-8 on weeknights? Do that shit!” But I think he needs more direction. He legit told my BIL he does half of the childcare this weekend which is a freaking joke!!! 🤨 I’m just to the point where after work tomorrow if he turns on that 🤬 game I’m going to snap the cord to the Xbox with scissors and lose my sanity. Somebody help! 😢

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