Am I being sensitive

The other night we were at friends house for dinner it was 8 o'clock and the wife said "I'm getting desert I'm just getting concerned about time as you know some of us have to go to work in the morning" bit of background I have three sons one is autistic one is home schooling and one is 8 months old I'm on paid maternity from work currently and have just found out I'm pregnant, the other three people at dinner go to a paid job so it was obviously aimed as a dig for me, it's really upset me she also used to do child care for one child as her job so must understand that having three kids is 24/7 work why does being a stay home mum or even on maternity leave make people look down on you like some second class citizen i can tell you from years of work 12.5 hour shifts what i do now is way harder but I wouldn't change it for the world.

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I think you maybe being a bit sensitive. Probably just wanted everyone to leave . If she doesn’t value stay at home mums that her problem .

I think your being sensitive, she probably meant that she needed to go to work tomorrow ... would have to clean everything up before going to bed...

well thats how I took it she has one 10 year old and works the morning shift so like a few hours and so the rest of the day she has a nap before doing the school run I'm up all night have a child to drop off then two at home I'm teaching i wouldn't invite someone then make a dig to leave felt like a slap in the face as women are already made to feel guilty about whatever choices they make go to work your a bad mum for leaving them with untold damage in nursery or stay at home and oh what do you do all day you just can't win

thing is if we reversed the same scenario they were at mine two days previous and stayed till gone 10 I was sat holding my son as hadn't had a chance to do bedtime routine and if i said right I'm getting concerned about the time as some of us don't get a full uninterrupted nights sleep as a way to hurry them out that would be a totally bitchy thing to say. I agree it's got my guard up a bit I did make a comment today that made me feel a bit better when I bumped into her about how as mum's you just can never win and she said oh some mum's all they care about is money so I think it's just a her problem 🤣

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We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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