The boy won’t eat 🤪

Doesn’t matter when, how, what or where we feed him the boy is barely interested.

We upped it to three meals to see if that helped but tbh it just feels like I’ve given myself more to make and more to clean up.

He eats almost or actually nothing of each meal. Plays with it, squeezes it, drops it on the floor. He does put some stuff in his mouth and he will eat little bits and bobs but like come onnnnnn. I know you aren’t meant to compare but I literally don’t know anyone whose baby isn’t into food yet.

He’s quite happy and chill but like why aren’t you eating hun! I called the HV a while ago and she suggested he was having too much milk but that’s meant to be his main source no??

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How many ml is he having a day? X

we give him an 8oz 5x a day but it’s incredibly rare for him to finish it. He’ll maybe drink 5/ 6oz so that could be likkkeee 735 ml?

I would definitely do less bottles if you can try and drop one? So we are down to 4 bottles and only on 2 meals. We try to space them out so she is hungry to eat. At 3 meals you would only worry if milk drops below 600ml per day. Have you tried the kiddilicious wafers? I wouldnt say my baby is a massive eater but if all else fails she will always eat those as part of a meal

I literally just gave my little boy one of those wafers and he devoured it 🤣

the guidelines for 8 month olds is 600ml so you could cut a feed and try food instead so that way you know he’s hungry

my baby is obsessed! no idea why as they are basically polystyrene lol 🙃

see this is where I don’t get it cause I’ve given him food when in theory should be hungry and he’ll still piss about. Then I’ll give him his bottle 30 mins later and he necks it.. I just feel uncomfortable feeding him less milk than he wants but I understand the theory..

we always do milk first (as advised by HV) as it satisfies their hunger straight away whereas food takes longer and on an empty belly they can get annoyed with food- so milk first then food 1-2 hours later then repeat x

I totally get it in theory but I thought you were meant to drop bottles when they had managed to replace them with solids. I feel weird not giving him the milk he wants when a lot of the info you see says it should still be his main source of nutrition🤷🏻‍♀️. Gahhhhhhh I hate this. Me and his dad are such foodies I just took for granted that he’d be like YES FOOD NOW

yeah we do this, I just tried to see if hungry hungry was better a couple times and it was not unfortunately!

if you do milk first then food you wont be not giving him the milk he wants 🥰 I did it this way and she dropped from 5 bottles to 4 herself, and soon I will add in another meal and imagine she will drop to 3 bottles in time! I totally get it, its such a faff though and a complete minefield!

Ah okay yeah worth a try!!

Hey, I’m in the exact same position. He went through a stage recently of about two weeks where he ate much more but when I say more I mean he’d have like 5 spoonfuls of food. He once ate half a pouch of food and then once ate the whole bowl of weetabix I’d made him but other than that it’d be like a few spoons. I spoke to the HV and she said just keep offering and she advised to reduce breastfeeding which I ignored because it seemed like really stupid advice. He’s not refusing food because he’s not hungry, it’s because he just isn’t interested. It’s really frustrating and I totally empathise with you. I’m hoping he’ll start to like food soon cos I’m going back to work 😬

Mine is the same

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

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Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.