Bed time help

Every night my almost two year old will take up to an hour to go to bed , he doesn’t nap during the day and he goes to nursery so I know he’s tired , I’ve tried offering him naps, quite time before bed, rough play before bed , no matter what I do he will fight going to bed, screaming constantly. I’m at my wits end I dread the end of the day everyday because know it will be a battle, the rage this boy causes me is unreal I really struggle to keep calm 😭 any ideas please help

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How old is he? I'd ride out the screaming, after about a week he wont do it anymore, in my experience. My son was a nightmare but I just let him cry it out to sleep when he was about 18 months old and he's slept like an angel ever since (he's now 6)

he’s 2 in a couple weeks , he has done this since he was about 16 months old , every night, without fail 😭

Is there a reason he doesn’t have a nap during the day?
Sounds like he could be over tired maybe?

I know its not nice hearing him cry for you but it's honestly the best thing I did for the both of us. I just had to blank it out, knowing he was fine other than being tired and not wanting to give in.
With the latest baby I put her down awake to settle herself from the start to avoid this situation 😂

if he naps he won’t go down till 10/11pm 😭 he also doesn’t want one really x

fair enough! Some babies just drop them early.
Sounds like maybe he’s just in a bad habit and you need to break the cycle. If you’re prepared to let him cry it out then that is an option

he was sleep trained but he’s gone backwards, I let him cry tonight and he went solid for 2 hours 😭 obviously I would keep going in every few minutes and lying him back down

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When did you start to introduce your baby’s routine? Do they just have a night routine or full day routine? Wondering when I should start this e.g naps at the same time everyday.

Any routines you have that work for you, please let me know them with timestamps. my baby is 6 weeks and just wondering when we should start them?

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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