Toddler extremely clingy - 32 weeks pregnant

My 2.5 year old is quite a sensitive little boy and in the last week he has become extremely clingy towards me. He constantly wants cuddles, wants to be cuddled to sleep in his bed both at bedtime and during nighttime wake ups (used to sleep through), gets very upset when I drop him at nursery and clings to me, etc. He’s constantly saying I love you so much mummy and just seems to be almost anxious that I’m going to go away or something. Obviously in one respect it’s quite sweet but I’m actually worried he’s feeling significantly anxious and it’s making me feel a bit worried. Is this just normal behaviour for a child who is about to become a big sibling? If so what can I do to reassure him?

Re the new baby, he seems excited about this and we talk about the baby and how he is going to help me and what the baby will drink and do etc and I’ve really tried very hard to not say or do anything that will make him in anyway feel concerned that I’ll be spending a lot of time with the baby. For example we talk about the baby as being his baby and mummy just keeping him in her tummy until he’s ready to come out etc.

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Really normal at this stage as your body produces oxytocin around 32 weeks which your little one will pick up and become very clingy!

Books are great. You can get books called “ I’m a big brother” or something like that and they can be helpful.

You’re doing everything right honestly! We did the same my toddler and had the same with her too. When he came home, she wasn’t 100% sure on the first day but the second day she started coming round.

When he meets baby for first time. Don’t be holding baby. Pop baby in crib or something and let him go to baby. Just let him come round in his own time. We also had visitors greet our toddler first and make a big deal out of her first.

We did the present thing where she for a gift bag from her baby brother and she was really happy with that idea and she got him a little present to give back too.

Lots of reassurance and understanding, be realistic in your expectations! Congratulations and best of luck! 💕

Mine has been acting kind of similar lately (21 months and 27 weeks along) he usually sleeps in his room so well but he’s been getting in our bed every night. He’s also been clinging to me in the night and pushing away dad. Keeps asking for a boob too, he stopped breastfeeding about two months ago

yes, my 20 month old is acting very similar (i’m currently 37 weeks).

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