Advice please!

Me and my husband has had a rocky 8 months, pretty much since I gave birth. And we agreed to go to therapy. I never go through his phone but I realized he changed the password to his phone about a month ago when he told me to look for something in his phone. He gave me a bs answer idk if I want to believe but I let it go anyway. Today our 8 month old had his phone and I’m kind of fighting her to get it back and I see he has a dating app on there. What should I do yall? Should I say something now? Or should I wait until our first therapy session which isn’t til the 31st ?

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I would say something! If you don’t it’s gonna eat you up until the 31st, you’ll probably be on edge & it will probably cause more arguments.
I’m sorry you saw that😕

Yeah. It’s definitely eating at me right now. I really don’t have the mental capacity to have another argument but at the same time I need to bring this up. I just want to give up so bad and go out separate ways but I want my daughter to have a chance to grow up in a 2 parent household.

Idk if this were me, I'd grab his phone, demand the password, then go through the dating app in front of him, asking questions, but if you bring it up to him he might get defensive and quickly delete idk what type of guy he is

apparently idk either 😂🤦🏾‍♀️. Demanding will just cause more problems.

😂😭 then there's definitely something to hide on his part, he knows it, he knows you know it.

I think in your therapy session he may try to deny it, so I don't know, I'd honestly just be like what the fuck is this and straight up attack, I wouldn't be able to wait 😬

I took a picture of the app from his phone so I wish he would try to deny it😂. You know how on iPhones even if it’s locked, if you swipe down it’ll show you the recently visited apps? That’s how I saw it.

Omggggg perfect you took a pic 😂
Yeah definitely odd behaviour on his part, I'm so sorry you're going through this, but so glad you saw it at the same time!!

Is there any way you need his phone for anything? For example - I need my hubby's phone if I wanna log into our electricity bill app cause it sends a code to his email for me to get in etc, could you do something like that where you need his phone, but be right next to him? Then be like "what was that" and pretend you saw it and ask? Even if you didn't, gaslight him 😂

Update! I asked him about it and he claims that it’s just there and he’s not doing anything with it. He says “I’m always in the house with you how do I have time to meet up with women?” I’m like true but you could also be chatting with someone. Then goes to say “that’s all it is. I need friends cuz I’m always in the house and me and you aren’t on good terms” I’m like there are other apps that doesn’t say dating that you can use. I left it alone for now but best believe it’s being brought back up in therapy. One thing I can say about him is that he’s a truthful individual. And idk if he’s using that to his advantage to get me to think he’s telling the truth.

sounds very sketchy to me. he admitted to chatting on the dating app, which means he is at least probably flirting with other women

Yeah but why is he on a dating app and not a meet friends app - like there's bumble then there's bff bumble - two separate apps, why is he talking to women? I wouldn't trust him even if he's usually truthful because fact of matter is that he has dating apps on his phone and he's changed his password which is shady to me! Best of luck though xx

Exactly 🤦🏾‍♀️. Thank yall for the advice though

Umm I do the same thing, I’ve downloaded dating apps and made some really good friends on there. Don’t go through his phone, that’s an invasion of privacy. If he wanted to leave he would be gone and it’s clearly hurting him that you guys are not on good terms, don’t feed into drama, he sounds like a really good dude. Just focus on bettering yourself - it’s obvious just by reading this that he loves you

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