Switch schools

Would you switch your kids school if the kids from last year keep bullying your kid and nothing is changing? My son’s self esteem has been at his lowest I’ve ever seen and I feel if I don’t switch him he’ll start getting depressed. He keeps asking for a new school. He’s in kindergarten. I know the new school isn’t a guarantee. I just feel he might need a fresh start. This has been going on since last year but it’s progressively getting a lot worse.

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If he is asking for a new school, I think it’s worth trying. I was bullied, but I always loved my school and friends - so I never asked to move. I recommend listening to your son and I am glad you’re there for him 🖤

If he’s already feeling that low and asking for a new school, it might be worth considering the switch. Bullying at that age can really stick with kids, and it sounds like he needs a fresh start where he feels safe and happy. Sure, no school can guarantee things will be perfect, but if nothing’s changing where he is now, it could be a good chance for him to rebuild his confidence. Trust your gut on this one, you know him best, and if a new environment could help, it’s totally worth a shot.

omg was the switch purposeful?! That’s awful

Honestly for other reasons as well I decided to homeschool my kids cuz their bullies just kept being in the same classes as my kids… like even in the lunch room they were being extorted for their lunches! I just couldn’t deal anymore

We switched my kids school for the same reason and it helped tremendously. It also helped the new school is better staffed and funded as well as has a strict zero tolerance rule. His grades are better than ever, and he has advanced in areas he struggled in, just from feeling safer and better cared for by teachers that actually want to be there.

Firstly, always listen to your kid. I’m glad you’re listening and taking things into consideration.
Before you do make the switch, I really urge you to go to town with that school.
Really ump it up and threaten to contact the media.
These schools will do absolutely nothing until you unleash hell.

Yes definitely. If you can switch I'd say do it right away. Poor thing 😞

The bad thing about it is the school systems don't usually have what it takes to be able to put a stop to it honestly or they might just be too overwhelmed or not care. Or what they told me over and over was that they just can't control who is around my kid or what is said to her... like I went thru it bad with them.

My daughter couldn't switch because she had such poor attendance from crying and refusing school.or faking I'll. So the other schools denied us. She's homeschooled now and it's done so good for her confidence and depression.

If it starts young it will affect then for life.. but it's never too late for positive change and to help our babies feel better. I do think sometimes trying a change of peers can help.
The wrong environment can really bring someone down and i do wish schools were better able to do something about this type of thing but they normally dont tbh.

in our community

I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do