MIL driving me crazy!!

I’d be annoyed at the comments. I would either say something myself or ask my husband to talk to her. I wouldn’t stand for it. I don’t think you are being over sensitive. Also nearing 6 weeks PP

I feel like that behaviour will only get worse. Stand your ground. And you shouldn’t have to defend yourself, your partner should be in your corner. I personally would get it all out there, there’s so much to do, you don’t need this hassle too

Losing your mum is awful and not having her here at this special and incredibly hard time for yourself must be so so so hard so definitely try to cut yourself some slack. You’re doing absolutely amazingly, the best but hardest job in the whole world so remember how incredible you are. In regards to In laws- I defo know how you feel. I have to challenge myself sometimes when I feel irritated. I now do a thing where I ask myself if I’d be as annoyed at the comment if it came from a member of my own family and if the answer is no then I try to let it slide. At the end of the day, we don’t know your in laws so it’s really hard to interpret how the comments are being made. Just know I FULLY understand the in law grind 😂 Your feelings are valid. Do you have anyone else close to you that you can run stuff past to vent? If you’re looking to exchange some in law stories I have a few (biggest was recently baby related 😂) so feel free to send me a message haha. Sometimes you just need to share

I feel you. Mine always takes my baby straight from my arms and I don’t get him back until it’s time to leave. Shes fed him wrong multiple times. And always makes comments. I can also feel she has an issue with the fact i had to have a c section (last minute emergency) with some of the comments she makes. It’s annoying because you feel it isn’t your place to say anything. My MIL has never been the biggest fan of mine so I never want to say anything to her even though how she acts most the time is not nice and makes me really anxious and upset. Have you spoke with your partner about this properly? See if he will speak with her and tell her she needs boundaries. But if you feel comfortable enough speaking up to her yourself then 100% do that!

My MIL also does this! Acts like my baby is hers and snatches her out of my arms and insists on coming over all the time! Never made the effort to meet me in the 1 and a half years I was living here, but suddenly now baby is here she keeps insisting it's her right to be a regular part of her life.
MILs really are a piece of work.
Undermining, rude, bitter, and trying to lay claim to your baby.

that's kind unfair to say all MILs are like that! As a mum to boys I worry because of comments like yours saying to hate all MILs. My sister has a lovely mother in-law who's more than willing to help and visit her!

If your partner is not listening then talk to her.

I also think this is really interesting and something I have definitely thought about. I think it’s really hard on the mother of the father (aka the mother in law). I feel like it’s common place for the MIL to feel pushed out when baby comes as mum tends to look to her own mother for comfort and support. and sometimes the MIL can push boundaries in an attempt to secure that connection? For me personally I think my in laws are just a factor that I can’t personally control 😂 I feel more comfortable with my family and therefore nip things in the bud with them rather than let them become an issue or irritant whereas we don’t feel we can always with in laws. I completely agree that the idea of vilanising your MIL should stop though. It really does depend on the individual family dynamic and relationship I think. I think any mil and dil can have beautiful relationships if they are worked on x

@Samantha My comment was a bit generalised I admit. Sure it's not always the case but sadly a lot of the time it is.

When did I tell people to hate MILs?

you implied that people should hate MIL and see them as Villains by saying "MILd really are a piece of work. Undermining, rude, bitter and trying to lay claim to your baby"

I really hope you have a daughter not a Son because then you'd become a MIL!

what’s my MIL’s excuse when I don’t have my mom to turn to?xx

@Anna I'm lucky in the fact my own MIL doesn't really have an interest. She's too busy working and taking care of rich people's babies to even notice I've had a baby.

I would have loved to make more of a connection with her so that saddens me.

Inco, try to talk to her directly. And maybe try to make more of a connection to her.

Say things like. I'd love you to help with the baby but I want to try and figure things out on my own. Or ask her what worked for her when raising her boy.

It must be an extra extra hard time for you. If you feel able to hash it out with your husband then I think defo do that at a time when you feel calm in order to avoid your partner feeling attacked and then he can really understand how it’s making you feel and you can get a plan together as a team. Alternatively as I said, feel free to message me for a vent. Sometimes I find sharing my annoyance in a safe space where I can really let out my frustrations and say exactly what I want to say helps me! Either way, your feelings are your feelings and they are valid. Definitely either address them or find a way to vent. I know first hand they fester and can cause so much anxiety! 🫶🏻

My MIL is the same, she makes weird comments which she must know are very strange so I understand where you're coming from x

My MIL is like this too, she’s so controlling