Little rant x

Hey everyone I’ve been a bit over place lately cos I keep seeing videos on TikTok and watching family/ friends babies all walking or standing up on their on own around 6 to 10 months and my little is nearly 1 in 13 days and hasn’t walked or leant to stand without support. I try but he legs go jelly or or has a little cry wen I try standing on his legs .
I keep overthinking I’m doing something wrong or I’m a bad mum. Xx

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Not at all!! My boy just turned 1 and he's exactly the same as yours. It's normal for them not to walk at this age, I think anything up to about 18 months is considered normal. They're just all different, you're not doing anything wrong so try not to beat yourself up x

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My LO was standing (supported) before she could crawl 😂 EVERYONE said she’d be an early walker. She’s 1 in 2 weeks and still nothing 😂😂😂 she’s recently gone off walking completely, won’t use her walker, won’t hold our hands to walk. She just collapses her legs and crawls. I think everyone jinxed her by saying it 😂 she’s just doesn’t seem interested. She’ll do it when she’s ready though.

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Not at all! We have a one year old and she isn’t walking people been saying for months she’ll be walking soon but I don’t think so she’s happy crawling and so what got ages yet to be starting worrying about it x

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They use their brain power for different things at this age, some walking, others talking, playing or eating. Don't worry about it. It's honestly best he finds his own way up as he'll have built up the strength to do it.

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Mine is only a few days out from yours, she only started pulling up to stand this week. She wont be walking any time soon. I deleted tiktok! Try and remember no one is making a video of their baby not walking so youre only seeing one side. The babies I know in real life usually walk around 13-14 months

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You’re not doing anything wrong at all, my little one went to physio for his legs and she said it’s best to leave them to it! Crawling is really important for them building their upper and core strength to be able to stand. Standing too early can cause bow legs like my little one has!! X

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My baby will be 1 this Friday he doesn't walk and only stands for few seconds without holding on to something. Please don't force him to stand or walk if he isn't ready to do so it's not good for their spines and won't help him in any ways. His muscles needs to be strong enough for him to do this on his own when his ready. You're not doing anything wrong I'm sure you are a wonderful mum 😊 they all develop at their own pace. Don't stress yourself 😘

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My 11 month old has only been crawling the last 5 weeks or so, only in the last couple of days stood whilst being held without her legs completely falling from under her, she lasts about a couple of seconds. Each child do things at their own rate. Our health visitor said as long as they are walking by 18 months. Give them time.

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Our LO only started crawling at 10.5 months old. She has been standing with support before then but has only really pulled up to stand in the last two weeks. She is 1 now. Please dont worry. This is normal xx

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