My boyfriend watching porn

I was the same. After many conversations I understand it and I realise it’s not that they’re “looking” at other women, it’s just a tool to help them. Besides that, my partner agreed to not watch it unless we aren’t getting it on in the bedroom for a while which I think it’s a completely normal thing. Men do need that release it seems, a lot more than women so if you’re not having sex at least once a week then it makes sense as to why he would use porn. (Of course unless you’ve just given birth then it’s understandable why you wouldn’t).

It doesn't mean he doesn't fancy or love you x

How would you even know? Don’t go snooping and respect that people are allowed their private time.

For a release apparently! We do stuff with each other maybe once a week but clearly that’s not good enough!

it isn’t unrealistic. I had the same boundary and my fiancé hasn’t watched porn in 2 years.

Don’t feel bad for sticking to your boundaries. I understand completely and if it’s something that makes you uncomfortable, he should respect that. You also shouldn’t force yourself to watch it with him if you don’t enjoy it. I’d have another conversation with him about it, remind him how you feel and go from there.

I had a feeling he had so I asked him out right. He lied at first and said no but eventually told me he had

not really? 😂 why is he a poor bloke because he doesn’t watch porn? He gets sexual satisfaction elsewhere. I don’t watch porn either and I’ve never felt sorry for myself.

If you’re having good sex then they don’t need internet tools to be satisfied. What a weird thing to say.

People forget that porn can also be an unhealthy addiction and in that case it can take its toll on a relationship. It’s not as simple as let him do what he wants, if you aren’t happy about it and i’m sure he would have been aware of that early on in the relationship, then changes can be made to make you both happy.

lmao no, I don’t. What, if I told him he couldn’t cheat on me, would that be controlling him as well, even though some people are okay with open relationships? What a ridiculous comment. I’m glad porn works for you and your partner but people are allowed boundaries. Your way isn’t the automatic right way.

I’m not fussed about my partner using porn (he used it pp when I was really not interested) but he never needs to anyway… happy sex life = no porn. 🤣 But I’m sure you wouldn’t be happy if your partner watched women having sex in person or going to strip clubs, but because it’s on a screen it’s normalised, correct?

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, how would even know that your partner hadn’t watched porn for two years 😂 I have no idea if my husband watches porn or not, I assume he probably does but I don’t know because it’s none of my business what he does with his alone time and I wouldn’t dream of snooping through his phone or putting him on the spot and asking him.

I think you’ll find I’m very secure, so don’t act you like you know me, because you don’t. I can also guarantee he doesn’t think ‘putting up with me’ is insufferable, what a weird thing to say. Attacking other women on a women’s app is crazy. Funnily enough I wouldn’t let him go to a strip club either, and I think you’ll find most women would agree with me. It’s the same thing, just on a screen instead of face to face. If I showed my fiancé your comments he’d laugh himself into a coma 😂 ridiculous

I’d also like to point out my fiancé wouldn’t like me watching porn either. Poor me, right? He’s so insecure. How do I put up with him 😂

I haven’t forced him to do anything, as mentioned above he wouldn’t want me to watch it either so trying to say my fiancé, who you’ve never met, is feeling a certain way is crazy 😂

Porn in my opinion is harmless. It's just a way to get to the end result. Once it's done you forget it. I think its healthy to watch it together , adds a bit of spice. My partner watches it as do I and I'd like to think that's where it ends, just a quick finish xx

I’ve just told you I don’t care if he does use it, so stop saying that I do.. 😂 I’m telling you to stop coming for women that have that boundary, because I have been on that side before when I was younger and completely understand. Oh ok, so you enjoy watching porn too, so no wonder you wouldn’t be arsed. Not every woman enjoys or wants to watch porn 😂

tell me where I held a gun to his head and cut off his internet connection? 😂 I can’t FORCE him to do anything, he CHOSE to stop watching it after I spoke to him about how I felt about it. Why you’re so bothered about what other people do in their relationships you’re resorting to calling strangers on the internet ‘up-tight’ and ‘insecure’ evades me, I genuinely cannot understand it. Continue what you’re doing if it makes you happy, we’ll continue what we’re doing. Have a nice day!

that’s a bit harsh to say ‘happy sex life = no porn’. Perhaps in your relationship yes. But it’s a bit of a sweeping statement to say imply that people don’t have a happy sex life if one of the partners is watching porn

Just ignore her now she’s clearly got something for younger mums, calling someone 22 years old a kid. Ridiculous! Not everyone wants to wait till 30 to have a child.

thank you 😅 I appreciate it.

so now you’re attacking young mums? What the hell is your problem, genuinely?

Fair enough, sorry for that statement I didn’t intend for it to come across in that way.

Ok kim 😂👍

that you know of....

I'm secure enough in myself to not give a flying shit if my fiance watches porn 😄. Girl chill, it's really not a big deal! It doesn't mean he doesn't fancy you, it's just a release, it doesn't mean anything. Life is happier when you stop giving a shit about things that don't matter!

@Kim trust me, he's watched it 🤣🤣

what do you mean?

@Rebecca if you mean he’s watched porn then I don’t even know what to say 😂 if you think he’s that obsessed with porn he’s watching it behind my back, again, I don’t know what to say. Not all men need porn to feel sexually gratified. I do not understand this argument at all.

Okay now stop. The poor poster didn’t ask for any of this. Agree to disagree. This is all just different opinions and that’s not going to change, who cares. This post was for advice/a rant about how the poster feels. She doesn’t need advice from people who don’t agree with her.

@Levi oh he watched it haha

Porn in my opinion leads to an addiction that further down the line can completely ruin your partners sex life with you

@Ina for most people it doesn't lead to an addiction. The same as most people can have a drink every weekend without becoming alcoholics! Or buy a lottery ticket every week without being a gambling addict

exactly what I was going to say!

I don’t care how many people tell you that you shouldn’t care he watches porn or your insecure (which isn’t true) you are validated in feeling upset and valid for not wanting him to watch porn. People find it unfathomable that a man couldn’t possibly not watch porn (it is very possible). It can cause so many issues- everyone has different boundaries in their relationship and we are all entitled to them (it is not controlling). If someone again and again disrespected me and my boundaries after having multiple conversations with them about it and then agreeing I would eventually come to the point I would leave them and find someone who will follow with what they say.

this!👏🏻 my fiancé watched porn a lot, it lead to him not being able to finish and it completely ruined our sex life, since he’s stopped our sex life has been amazing. And he agreed that it was the porn that was the issue

Fight The New Drug on Instagram might have some useful advice.