Whats the problem with SOME of the these SAHM’s / married single moms??

First and foremost I applaud you for working! I honestly don’t know how women do it! I’m exhausted being home day in and day out on autopilot

I don’t get breaks unless I actually book plans (paid) because my husband would hate to waste money lol

I’m a SAHM and Single Married Mom. Only recently did my husband start bedtime routine and even still he moans and groans about it.

She’s bitter imo and resentful. Pay no attention to it. Do NOT feel guilty for making time for yourself

I did it while in the newborn stage and I wish I could find the balance in toddlerville 🫶🏻🩵

She’s probably just bitter and jealous. I’m a SAHM with an active husband but he also travels for work. I love my breaks when he’s home so I can relax but I also let him have his breaks too because he does work and comes home to parent so his work is never done either and of course we plan date nights so we can have time together. Nobody’s work is done when you’re a parent

Thank you! She is my little sister , i really wish that her husband would be an active father , i want the best for her. Its sad that she is using me as her punching bag.

She's hurt and just overstimulated with all the things she has going on in a day. Being a sahm and a homeschooler myself doing it all on my own never a break ever I get it. But I also understand that everyone's life is set up differently. But truth be told a sahm and a mother who goes into a clock in Job or have her own business regardless of the situation our mother hats never comes off ever. It's just the set up of being a sahm because most times we are in the hosue always have our children with no social life but with the mothers who are able to get out have a Lil more freedom to be able to socialize and breathe if that makes sense ❤️

Both of you all are doing an amazing phenomenal job .....and both of you have and are sacrificing so much daily that it can definitely clash an we begin to feel like we're alone because we don't have anyone to speak to right then and there so it's definitely a hard space to be but I truly believe if you all can just set aside a day to actually sit down an talk and both of you get out what you are experiencing from both ends and just being to meet each other where you are at....you both will thrive and achieve together ❤️

She's your sister and sisters always need each other.....she's just overstimulated and feel as though your throwing what you can do in her face because she's unable to do it ...and I know that's not the case but from her viewpoint that's where she is at with it....hurt people hurt people unintentionally and she just wants to be validated and seen ....as do you and the rest of us.....

Well you don’t get breaks if you want to get technically, working isn’t a break because you’re working. You’re not out partying having a blast while hubs and kid is at work/school. 🤣🤣

I’m a sahm but I don’t sit here and down working moms. You go out, work. You come back home, work. What get maybe 15 mins shower without interruptions? 30 or more on a night hubs watch over kids for extended time like come on. 🙄🤣

Your sister sounds like she’s miserable of her life and jealous of yours if I’m being honest. Giving weird behavior.

She sounds jealous

Jealousy

thank you for this perspective. Maybe she thought i was bragging🤔 …if anything i was proud of myself b/c i feel like ive let myself go plus financial issues, so getting something as simple as a body scrub for myself was something i was excited about

I’m truly sorry that she is but maybe that’s her passive aggressive way of asking for help or a break? I hope things get better for you! 🩵💙

true😭 I don’t even really have friends to even go to a club with! I be tired forreal😭 and mom guilt don’t let up either

Girl yourself grace queen. Only you know what you deal with on a daily. You don’t have to explain yourself to noooomfbody!

Yes ma'am absolutely and you have every right to celebrate the small things....it's always the small things that matter most .........I don't know how you and your sisters relationship is but I would say try asking her out things like that

Give both of you a chance to catch up breath and reconnect on an adult level finally ❤️❤️💯👌🏾

Girl, do not downplay the fact that working and being a parent is ROUGH. You're doing an awesome job. But I literally cannot fathom having had a child with someone that was not an active parent so I see both sides. However, that's an active choice she made.

I always find ppl who make active choices to live their life a very specific way interesting when they get mad at the choices other ppl make. If you chose to be a SAHM and your husband isn’t active at all, that’s a choice, don’t judge me for choosing to put my kids in daycare while I work so my hubby and I can live more
Comfortably on the two incomes. If it was up to me I’d be a SAHM but we don’t have that luxury. I go back to work on the 21st and I’m not ready.

Its not fair to you to be judged for her choices. Overstimulation, anxiety and exhaustion aside I can understand feeling upset about it but passing judgement is unacceptable.

i wish. we’re in different states, her husband is military, so they move around

Yes ma'am completely understandable....that can be very stressful as well.....if you want my inbox is always open if you would like to talk more

same here!!! I’m SAHM, My hubs is gone Monday through Friday! Comes home Friday afternoon and leaves either Sunday night at 11pm or 4am (Monday) It’s awful!!! I have 3 kids. 15,10,and 4. I never get a break. My hubs and I don’t do shit. We both do everything when he’s home. (Well, let’s be honest, he’s mostly playing with the boys so I can clean) 🤣 but it helps.

These comments are not about SAHM vs working mom, they are about supportive partner vs non supportive partner. I don't know exactly where she is, but there are probably times in her recent memory where she's gone 5 or 6 days without showering... Hearing about luxurious body scrub from anyone is just triggering. Avoiding daycare and school is a common reaction to unsupportive partners or other family members ("If her own dad can't take care of her, how could a stranger possibly provide adequate care") You don't get a "break" from parenting or mom guilt, but you do get a break from the non stop stimulation of caregiving for a toddler. Anyway, her comments aren't about you, but if anything are a bright blaring signal that she needs support... especially when she eventually leaves him. 😬

I've had conversations like this with my sister as well. We both have had different struggles and blessings in life. We both have different struggles and blessings now. I know that when my sister makes these comments, it tells me more about how she's feeling about her own life. How she feels about my life doesn't change how I feel about her or about my own. I know I don't talk to her about the stressor of having to be in contact with my abusive ex for the kids sake because her children's father passed away. We will never understand each others pressures firsthand. All I can do is give her credit where it's due (which is pretty much everywhere for most moms). I can see her guard slip away so quickly when I validate her instead of becoming defensive. If she tells me why something is harder for her bc she works full time while I work from home, I simply tell her I'm proud of what she's been able to accomplish. I switch it back to positivity towards her instead of making it a competition.