Should my baby dad let me have kids on mother’s day?

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all! Mother’s Day is for the mothers/nans/anyone who steps up. I would be the same as you! Could you do half and half? Maybe dad has him over night? As long as you’ve given him an option.

not unreasonable at all, it’s literally mother’s day. tbh he should be planning something for you, even if its getting you flowers from the kids!

Sorry I pressed no to the ‘am I being unreasonable’ you’re not unreasonable. You should be able to have him aswell, could you maybe do a half day?

Sorry if this is harsh, but I think sons birthday overrides mothers day if it falls on the same day! But it still sucks if you can't see him, half day would be fairer. If you can't see him at all I'd pick a day for his birthday and a day for mothers day when you're together and re-do them both.

I also pressed no to say not unreasonable ha sorry

It's mother's day your son is the reason you are a mother, so get your son that day for sure

I think if it wasn't your son's birthday, you'd be right but it's just fallen on an unfortunate date this year. I'd celebrate another day if you can't come to an agreement with Dad

Same I pressed no for not unreasonable but I'll be in the same boat this year as I was last year... So annoying!

@Steamtrane Family this is EXACTLY how i feel it just seems like such an important day to spend together i’ve also offered for his dad to come to the zoo with us he’s said no🤷🏼‍♀️

Not unreasonable but I can see why the dad wants his son on his bday too. Can you split the day?

I think you should both do half and half ☺️ it’s his birthday, so his dad should get to see him too, but also it’s Mother’s Day so obviously you’ll want to celebrate with your kids!

i think yes you should be entitled to have him on mother’s day, so long as you would let your son go to his dad on father’s day if it’s not his usual day yanno? but presuming you would, then definitely he should be allowing you to have him and you tried compromising by saying dad could go to the zoo with you for sons birthday as well but he’s the petty one refusing x

I agree with everyone else, your son should spend the day with you. Hopefully someone can knock some sense into him 🙄- Men can be idiots’ sometimes. I’m due to have my first baby soon and my siblings are planning a mother’s brunch for my mum and I. So my husband decided that he wasn’t dropping his kids off at their mum’s for Mother’s Day, I had to knock some sense into him because that’s the most cruel/ ridiculous thing I’ve heard. I couldn’t imagine not having my baby with me on Mother’s Day x

I think it's reasonable but it's on dad's time so I don't know how you've approached it but compromising may go a long way, swapping out days? Asking him if he could possibly bring the kids home earlier on mother's day/sons birthday. It's also his son's birthday too! Is their another ok occasion you are willing to trade in for mother's day, Christmas falls midweek. Is it court ordered the contact schedule? You are not obliged to honour his request but what would be his reaction?

Hmm, I don't think mothers day trumps his dad having him on his birthday though. If it means that much to you, then my suggestion would be you split the day between you, which is the fairest way.

Not unreasonable. Is there a court order? If there isn't you do not have to send your child to him and can keep him for mothers day. If there is a court order, does it state that child is to spend mothers day with you? You could offer another day to the father to make up x

Oops I accidently put no, read the question wrong I think dad should try to be a little reasonable given its your little ones birthday and mother's day I don't agree you should have to redo either event another day No way of doing half the day each?

Mum who’s been to court for both of my children here. If it’s not stated in a court order how you split your child arrangements then unfortunately it’s a matter of mutual agreement. If the other parent decides that they are not compromising on sharing special days like Mother’s Day/ birthdays as it’s “their” time, unfortunately there’s nothing you can do but it works both ways. My judge actually didn’t even include special holidays in my daughter’s order, told us to sort it between ourselves. I’ve had to stop contact to take him back to court for enforcement as he was bending the rules too much to suit himself and it wasn’t fair. I didn’t even ask for Mother’s Day as it was his weekend I planned to do something nice in my time. Bottom line is, things should be split so it’s fair but If you can’t agree and it’s not in any order then I would consider going to court to iron out all of these issues or mediation. Sounds like disputes which might need to be resolved outside you both.

Everyone says you should have him because it’s Mother’s Day… I don’t agree. Provided the baby dad has good reason to fight it like maybe he already arranged something special for the day. If he’s being difficult for no reason then unfortunately not much you can do, other than maybe have an early celebration on Saturday. But surely the birthday is more important? I wonder how you arrange for birthdays, does the child not see both parents?

Not unreasonable however it is also your son's birthday so you and dad probably both really want to spend the day with him. Maybe suggest doing half the day each or something. Just unfortune that it's his birthday that day too otherwise I think it'd be totally fair to expect to have him on mother's day.

Okay I put no for not being unreasonable but think it was meant to be yes for letting you have them . Maybe suggest having them only half the day and then give him a Saturday to make up for the half day that you have them he might go with that x

Would you actually be doing anything to celebrate mother's day? Or just having them because personally I think birthday trumps mother's day every time. Either do half and half or just forego it this year. If it wasn't his birthday I'd say absolutely have him on Mother's day. If it was the other way around would you let his dad have him?

I pressed no before reading the full thing sorry!🤍